Really confused with where my relationship is at, at the minute and It is hard to talk to boyfriend about it.
Been together 1.5 years, both late 20's and recently hit a rocky patch due to several reasons but a long story.
About 5/6 weeks ago we decided we needed a break from each other. It was really hard and I did nothing but cry. For 1 week we had no contact and I realizedhow much i missed him. 2nd week of the break we started to message more and at times began to feel like old times again with jokey messages and generalchit chat. After a 2 week break we met up, talked things through and said how we both love each other and we both want to make it work. We had both done things wrong in the relationshipbut agreed to put these behind us after talking it all through.
We said we would take things slow and see how it all pans out, i just didn't realise how slow thingswere going to be when i agreed to taking it slow. Since getting back together over the course of the last 3/4 weeks i have seen him 5 times and most of these have just been going roundfor tea after work as he is often busy at weekends. We did have a nice day day on a saturday though which was lovely and just like old times. We are getting on well and both making the effort, it shows just how good we are together when we make time for each other and are honest and open.
My main issue is that he has said we are 'taking things slow' which to him means no staying over at his place like i used to do. He can't stay at mine due to not living on my own.I use to stay around 3/4 nights a week at his before. It is hard going round after work or after hobbies for some food and a quick hour together then having to leave to go home at 9pm. Due to this and the taking thingsslow bit we haven't been intimate together for 6 weeks. It's not just the sex that I miss, but general cuddles, bear hugs, cheeky bum slaps, skin to skin contact, kisses other than a peck on the lips. He use to sit in his boxers and watch tv cuddled up to me because he gets too hot but instead now just sits and watches tv next to me fully clothed. I feel like becauseof this we are driftingapart and will end up as just really good friends in nothing changes soon. Its taking 1 step forward but 2 steps back.
We've agreed that we are still boyfriend/girlfriend, together as a couple, exclusive and are still counting the fact we've been together 18months. We agreed that we weren't starting from the beginning, casually dating or counting again from month one. It just makesme so confused! Even when we first started dating and had just met he asked me to stay over at his on date 3 (about 2/3 weeks in). Which back then I politely declined as i thought it was too soon, i'd only just met him. But now i'd do anything to fall asleep in his arms again or just have some physical intimacy.
I don't really know what i'm posting for, just needed to get it off my chest as i've tried talking to him about it and he doesn't agree. Will this make us drift apart? Surely its the closeness that makes you a couple. I don't want to be just great friends!