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New relationship doubts

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UnaCorda · 08/03/2020 12:52

I've waited forever to meet someone and finally got to know a man through an evening class I go to. He seems nice, although I have a few reservations (for example he doesn't have a job at the moment) and seems to like me a lot.

However as soon as we started dating he's become quite needy and a bit pathetic - frequently saying he "wants a cuddle" and pointing to his face for me to kiss it. It's turning me right off.

My concern is that previously I've been attracted to a lot of emotionally unavailable men who have treated me very badly and, now I've met someone who seems keen, it's me who's being avoidant. I don't know whether to see how things pan out or just to nip it in the bud (and condemn myself to being single for another eternity).

Help!

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UnaCorda · 09/03/2020 09:10

He sounds like a feathery stroker.

He's not sure it yet but I suspect you're right!

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Zaphodsotherhead · 09/03/2020 09:22

Three DAYS and he's wanting to 'cuggle' already? Does he live at home with a mother who dotes on him and treats him as a baby?

Yeah, no. He might look like a good bet during your evening classes, but this is who he is underneath. He wants to be babied. It's no good telling him it puts you off, he'll just act better until he's got you properly hooked, and then the 'ikkle's will come out again.

BobGalaxy · 09/03/2020 09:34

Link to the other thread
I’m going to have to split up because his phrases irritate me http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/3842563-I-m-going-to-have-to-split-up-because-his-phrases-irritate-me

ThisSistineWontScreamAtItself · 09/03/2020 09:44

@unacorda

So you're going to be ending this now yes?

hellsbellsmelons · 09/03/2020 09:48

3 days!
And the 'ick factor' is already kicking in.
You know what to do OP.
Dump and run.
I can't bear needy men.
And in his 50's!!??? WOW.
Your instincts are telling you to run.
So don't ignore them!

Get out and about.
Join a couple of clubs.
Get on dating sites.
But don't 'settle' for this one.
He needs throwing back!

Mermaidwaves · 09/03/2020 13:27

Thanks for the link! That thread is hilarious!Grin

UnaCorda · 09/03/2020 22:03

So you're going to be ending this now yes?

'Tis done.

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ThisSistineWontScreamAtItself · 09/03/2020 22:54

@unacorda

Ah well done - it sounds like that's best for both of you. I bet you feel so relieved, which is always a sign you've made the right choice Thanks

UnaCorda · 10/03/2020 13:36

I bet you feel so relieved

No, not really. Having a taste of being in a relationship has just highlighted how fed up I am with being single.

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