I've been stood up!

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Just that & I am very angry and upset!

Back story, been dating the guy for the last 2 months, going out around twice a week but message every day etc. All was going well (or so I thought)
Tonight we were going to stay in, get a takeaway & watch a film but that was supposed to be at 7 and it's now 845!

He messaged me this morning, chatted a bit as usual & he said that he was meeting his friend for lunch & drinks but would be ready to see me at 7...

I have not heard from him since 4pm, i asked if he was coming here or me to his, no response.
I've messaged 3 times 😢

Unacceptable. Move on.

There is no way he got in at 430 (15 mins before the rugby kicked off) and fell asleep!

DUMP! Dickhead.

He is 27.
I am 34.

It's Saturday afternoon, he fell asleep, it happens.
I couldn't get that upset about it personally.
It's not a hanging offence.

Give him a chance to explain, if hes been great apart from this

Anything could have happened

Sleeping for five hours? In the afternoon? Drunk.

And he knew he was supposed to be meeting you, so, had he been sober, he would have set an alarm if he cared.

He didn't even think to set an alarm. Drunk and doesn't care. Move on, OP.

I’m not saying you should take my advice because you know him better than me, but I have bailed on/stood people up several times because I fell asleep. I am a professional 31 year old woman but I’m also prone to exhaustion (and I’m teetotal so it’s not about being drunk/hungover). Personally I would forgive someone this because I know what I’m like and my good friends know it’s a thing I do and cut me slack for it, but if you feel he’s more likely to be lying then obviously that’s not on

I’d do what @EmmiJay said, then see just how contrite he was tomorrow.

Next time anything like that happened? Bye bye.

Sleeping for 5 hours sounds like total bs.

I'd be angry and upset too. How has he been before this? Has he let you down before?

First offence? Gone him a chance to explain properly tomorrow and then decide whether you think it was acceptable.
I say that because like @dodgeballchamp I've been known to flake on people by falling asleep without intention.

I'd just turn my phone off and go to bed. Definitely don't let him come round for a booty call! See what he has to say in the morning.

Thanks everyone.
He called me and said he was genuinely asleep.
He has not let me down before.
I will leave things for tonight & see how things pan out tomorrow.

Let this one go. Too young for you anyway.

Oh my goodness the man fell asleep!

If it was a first offence then fair enough I’d be telling you to forget him but if he’s been reliable for the past two months and you get on well give him the benefit of the doubt.

I'm also calling BS. He was in the pub.

I mean at least you're not at a restaurant alone or something. I couldn't get worked up about someone forgetting to set an alarm when pissed at the rugby

Just had to pipe up as someone said he’s too young for you. I’m mid 30’s and my DP is seven years younger and we’ve been together years and very much in love!

@Skierrdery who are you to tell the OP a man is too young for her!

I’d give him the benefit of the doubt this one time OP, but I think I would be a bit wary for a while.

Blimey he's only 7 years younger than her 🤷‍♀️ OP don't text back, let him chase you now...

How sorry and mortified was he?

If he woke and phoned you with an incredibly embarrassed apology and immediately made a new date...yeah, maybe he accidentally fell asleep.

If he just texted that he fell asleep and said something like "will be in touch"? Nope. He made better plans and deliberately stood you up with the very worn out "I fell asleep" excuse. Bin.

Op is at the age where reproducing is going to become increasingly pressing.
Partner is 28, male haha. Clearly he's going to want to go out with 'the lads'. He has about as much sense as a toddler. He won't want to be tied down as evidenced by his behaviour today (just 2 months in).
They're at totally different phases in life. Again as evidenced by OP wanting a pizza and movie night and partner wanting to go out and get hammered.

Ahhhh shit👀 here we go...🍿

Skierrdery

You totally made up that he went out and got hammered.

You totally made up that he wants to be with ‘the lads’.

You totally made up that he doesn’t want to be tied down.

You totally made up that they are different phases in their lives.

Are you bored hun?

He's 7 years younger. Years for males are like dog years. So he's actually 20 as opposed to the mature 34 that the OP is. No skin off my nose if anyone takes offence. My ex was 3 years younger. He still had notions.