Dumped again Online Dating What's Your Dumped Message been Like?

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So Ive just been dumped again by my latest online date. This one didnt get to a second date. The first date went well I thought, loads of chemistry, loads in common. But I could sense his interest waning and I've had a message cancelling our next date. Apparently he has a lot on his mind. Each and every man I've met has ended it by saying this. Can't they think of anything more original? Please tell me some of your more original endings to cheer me up a bit?

I started OLD at 55 and have had no problems finding men between 53 and 59, I really don’t think you can generalise that they’re all looking for way younger. Many are, of course, but I wouldn’t want to be with someone like that so who cares? My current guy is only 51 so if anything I’m the dodgy one here!

Cliche alert: it’s a numbers game, and persistence pays off.

My sister met her husband on match.com

He is attractive, solvent, stable, caring.

They have been married many years now, each of them has a child from a previous relationship and they have had a baby.

I have had a couple of relationships with men I met online too, before I met my husband (in more unusual circumstances than online!).
These relationships lasted a 12-24 months and the men in question were very attractive, solvent, stable, very decent human beings.
They were certainly not 'rejects'!

Both my sister and I have very different approaches to life in general and dating in particular and both of us went for dozens of cups of coffee with guys that did not suit us or who did not find us suitable.

Do not give up. Carry on. NEXT! I'd say.

I also think a lot of men have been conditioned to lie to women. They are terrified of the consequences of telling the truth - maybe it dates back to 'mummy issues' - 'mustn't make mummy cross', so they lie because it's easier and they think it's less upsetting than telling the truth.

Even if we can see through the 'I'm really busy with work', they think it's less likely to make us angry than 'I'm sorry but I'm just not feeling a connection.'

Hi.

Bloke here, been in a lot of working and academic situations with women all my life.

I suspect the truth is, sadly, that a lot of men do not actually like women.

Before I meet my hubby on zoosk I meet a guy for a date, he messaged after everything went well, chatting ect when I asked if he was up for another date, he said no my wife wouldn't like it lol

I started chatting to my now oh 2 days later, nearly 6 years on we are still very happy.

My friends said she met a guy in a coffee shop after weekend of chatting online. They had a good chat, got along really well and then he suddenly got up at the end and said “we’ll it’s been a really pleasant coffee, but obviously this end here because you’re so overweight and I don’t do fat women. I hope I’ve been clear”. Then he just left. She was absolutely devastated (and she isnt a large women, not that it would be acceptable to say that if she were).

Sorry posted too soon, my point was she would’ve preferred a polite goodbye and a text later saying “sorry, I’m not feeling a connection!”

@Raella50 did your friend have an up to date photo of herself on her profile? It's just that the biggest complaint about OLD from the men I've met online is that the photos often don't resemble the woman at all, they are usually 10kg lighter and a few years younger in the photos. On man I met said that his date had used a photo of her daughter on her profile.

There's another obvious reason why men lie. If they say, look i like you enough to string you along for a while but I'd never make you my girlfriend because I'm hoping to do better than you!'' then we'd walk away instantly, but if they give mixed signals, half truths, omissions, then they can be in line for a shag but still walk away with their head held high telling themselves ''I never promised anything''.

@Raella50 wow your poor friend.

When I was doing OLD, this guy asked me how recent my photo was. I responded ''um, last tuesday'' and he was saying how much weight could be put on how quickly cheeky fucker. He had told me he was a dental hygienist and he also said the town he worked in so I did a bit of googling, got his surname and looked him up on facebook and he was as plump as mr tumble. Nerve of him!

@j712adrian what makes you think that - is it situations you have come across at work? And why wouldn’t men like women that much - silly question maybe but am interested in your view.

In my case my online date (7 dates in) said an ex had got in touch with him. May or may not have been true, and in any case the dates were platonic and neither of us were sure if they should go further. Did really like him however, and now miss the contact I had with him.

@Helpmechangemymindsetplease

Hiya, yes thank you, it is experience. I've spent most of my career in public service where there are a quite a lot of women, for instance I'm used to them as senior teachers and board members. I think I've been really lucky to work with some senior women through my career.

Get out into places like the manufacturing and other similar sectors, though, and the attitude is very different indeed.

@izzywizzygood
Online dating is just the dregs of society, step away from it. It's the pool of rejects and they're there for a reason.

That's quite a generic comment. Does that refer to all people or just men. I OLD and can assure I'm not a drag of society nor a reject. Oh the reason I'm there is because I'm single

*dreg

Inthinknwomen use it because they can't meet men anywhere else and because childcare etc means they can't get out to pubs etc easily. I also think that women use it because it can be hard going out with friends who are partnered up and a lot of women don't like going out alone.

I do thinknmennand women use it differently and for different reasons.

However, there will be some who fall into that category, I guess.

I met very few men who were even capable of a relationship when I did online dating!

TheYearOfTheDog I’m trying to OLD at the minute (trying being the operative word!) and have just come across a dental technician! Did the name of yours begin with a B? And he lived in a town beginning with N?!