What are your dating standards requirements?

[katiie3]

During the dating phase, there are a lot of nerves and often you can let things slide whilst seeing each other.

1. how often do you expect to see your partner?
2. do you want him to make an effort with dates?

I have dated people who would make an effort to organise cute dates and go out together, and I have dated people who would only sit in-front of the TV with a takeaway for a 'date'.

The TV 'dates' did not last. Fizzled out on my side within weeks.

I think there is a good medium. A man can lead but a woman can be responsive and happy to accept the dates, and appreciative of the efforts. If that makes sense.

@bangheadhere40 yes exactly that. I definitely make effort, I just like him to suggest the dates at first that's all.

UncorrectedDoormat - it can just sometimes be difficult to know if you are on the same page when they pretend to be all outgoing with a million hobbies and friends and wanting to do stuff in the first few months and then suddenly revert to only wanting to stay in. A lot of men just seem to put on an act, as though they think they should go out, and they think up dates and are happy to go and do what you want, and then, six months in, it's all 'oh, let's not bother to go out, there's Strictly to watch and I fancy a beer'.

And it kind of creeps up on you.

@UncorrectedDoormat yes, this is true. At the start, most men do put in an effort to take you on dates, and then it slowly changes to let’s have a night in or come over to mine, then it’s gets too late too go out and it becomes a cycle.

I've done the men who take you on dates thing.

Hated it. Felt like a commodity.

I have issue at all with just sitting talking for hours at one of our houses. That is worth a million dates.

I've got loads of people I can go and do stuff with. Not that I dont like doing stuff with partners. I do. I just dont want a man to take me out to restaurants. I want to see him in his natural habitat

no Issue. Exactly the opposite of what I typed.