I have NO sex drive ...

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... and feel fat, frumpy, old, ugly and totally unattractive.

Obviously DH is starting to get a little upset by my total refusal to do anything sexual, even kissing is a struggle. He is very understanding but I think he's getting, understandably, fedup and thinks it's him. It's not him, it's me.

How can I get my mojo back? Please help oh wise MNers!

I am really bad with this, I avoid sex as much and as long as I can, for months at a time, I love my husband and we always cuddle eachother and hold hands everywhere and get on pretty well.Massage eachother and rarely argue
I just have no sex drive at all, i think match someone else on this thread when they said they 'wouldn't care if they never had sex again'.
Its a real problem though because its not fair on them. I have recentlyu lookd at female viagra but it is just aimed at post menapause again.......dont know what the answer is

Am back - no passion (due to bad back) but a lovely evening. I cooked DH rib-eye steak and bought a lovely bottle of red and then we went to the pub and laughed lots DH agreed that my bad back was a blessing in disguise as it allowed us to have a great time with no pressure

Twice at the weekend, once Sat morning with saucy underwear, once Monday morning

Creakyfloor

Namechanger, am the same. Had no sex drive since ds1 now 4yrs old, been for blood tests and sex therapy at relate but nothing. I would also be happy to never have sex again. Unfortunately I'm not able to do it just for H's sake as I don't want to be touched at all really. Just seperated from H for mainly this reason

Hope things improve for you x

Hi

New to the board but looked up this thread as I am in the same boat. Had dd 6 months ago and cant face sex. Dh is brilliant but almost to the point of actually not seeming to bother (even though he says he does). He doesnt approach me in any way so I feel even more undesirable (guess he cant win). I also have an open wound that I have had for 3 years related to my crohns disease on my bum so add that to the attractive leaking boobs and being 3 stone overweigh and I honestly feel the most digusting creature going.

I love dh dearly, I know he loves me back but how do you get past this complete lack of desire. Have to say my libido was crap before being preggers anyway especially since having the wound. You guys are great, saying cook a meal and just get on with it. Wish I could just do that but I avoid at all costs and the thought of having to have sex totally stresses me out.

Do you think he will really stick around? I didnt have sex whilst being pregnant so it is now 14 months since we did it!!!!!

Advice or comforting comparisons greatly appreciated.

I have the same problem at the mo, would be happy if I never did 'it' again. Its not him although sometimes he doesn't help by sulking like a kid.

I feel so tired after a day working with the kids (am a childminder) and all I wanna do is go to sleep. He never treats me or buys flowers to show he appreciates me except on Mother's day and he never takes the youngest swimming/football or do anything with him.

We had our kitchen done last Chrimbo and the guy flirted with me abit, we didn't have an affair but he did snog me and told me I was nice etc which made me feel nice, I've not seen him for months but sometimes I'd love to bump into him and have a nice night iyswim!

Anyone else have the same problem with their dh?

Just the same!!! No sex drive at all really even before having son who is 4. DH is good really and only complains about once a week. I know I should feel like it but really, do I have to? I would much rather spend a day with the MIL (from hell)!!

Go to bed before your DH and read a saucy book to get you in the mood...

I find that everything has to be good between DH and me for me to be interested etc and even then I may not be bothered - but do find a good book will do the trick..

Sometimes DH says to me do I fancy reading my book and he will be up in 20 mins...

i could have written this post so easily but my last child is almost 4

i just can't be bothered but then feel guitly the guilt gives me heartburn, I also occasionally have painful sex and dh has a skin condition that makes me uncomforatbla touching parts of him

and he just accepts it but tries again the next night and i get all worked up in a kidn of how do i avoid it tonight feeling and there goes the heartburn again

we are going out tonight and i don't want to
i have baths and want to go to sleep
i drink and want to go to sleep

i alwo wouldn't care if i never had sex again

please give list of saucy books

I was just about to start a thread about this! My sex drive has taken a dive since I developed thrush about a month ago and it just won't go away! I'm 22 weeks pregnant, full of a cold, have hurt my back and my DP wonders why I'm not feeling sexy!
I love DP and he is so gorgeous...I really wish I felt like sex again

My first question.. Are you on the Pill?

My DS is 13mo old and i've been completely off sex since he was born, i thought it was just a post baby thing.

But this month, i didn't get my repeat prescription to the chemist in time to get my Pill, so i decided to leave it this month and have a break from it.

My Sex-Drive has returned with a vengence, and DH thinks its christmas come early!!