I'm finally leaving but he doesn't know yet

[sillycat72]

Well I have taken my wedding rings off but he hasn't noticed.
It's been an awful 6 months, his teenage dds decided they wanted me out and have been so spiteful and rude. It's become toxic here and he has just been so awful. He doesn't know himself what I have done but I guess he feels as they are his dcs he should side with them. I get that but from my POV it's horrible as me and my teenagers have been pushed out. They won't go anywhere if I'm there, they won't even go on holiday if I'm there. How can I expect him to go on holiday without his kids!
I did leave and he begged me back said he needed me and saw the error of his ways and needed me etc. But it didn't last long, his younger dd14 said she wasn't coming back to the house and his older dd15 just didn't want to be here, which made him upset. Me and my dcs 16 and 13 don't understand were it's all come from. What have I done, I think maybe I tried too hard and they somehow think I was trying to replace their mum or something . But for me it's felt very isolating and I've never cried so much, I didn't want my marriage to end I still don't but they just hate me and dh won't stand up for me because he doesn't want to loose his children. So I've managed to find a house for me and my 2 I just feel I have to get out of here! I'm scared though but it's awful here. I hope we will be ok I'm very tearful tonight

What a strong woman you are

How are you OP? did you get someone to go too

OP - I remember your previous thread. His dd’s have absolutely no respect for you and your dh refuses to do anything about it so...what else can you do but leave?

I am positive that your own dc’s will thank you and you will be much happier, well done for putting yourself and them first. Also saying he “taunts” you makes him sound abusive too.

Life is short, it really isn’t worth this much angst. I wonder how long before wife no.3 gets to meet his darling daughters?! I predict him dying a lonely old bachelor If those little madams have their way!

But if there are cameras recording your every move they must be recording his dds moves too, are they ok with this.

I started off thinking this was a Disney Dad problem but it really isn't, is it? It's no surprise his daughters are so awful when he is, too.

Could you pack up one day and just go?

Can you do something to the cameras so they're not working? Eg switch off wifi?

Are your kids happy to go?

In which way does he taunt you?

Why on earth does he need cameras inside the home to watch you?

Yes everything is organised, I move out next week, he knows now, he didn't take it too well but he's calmed a bit. He's emotionally shut down. I just keep visualising sitting in my new garden. His dds have got wot they want good luck to them all I'm outer here

Well done OP, I know it hurts but you are doing the right thing

Well done.
It's a big step and you've done it.
One more week and you can sit in your own garden.
You can watch what you want on TV.
You can eat what ever you want, when ever you want.
You can have a whole bed to yourself.
You don't have to pander to anyone other than your children.
You don't have to do extra washing.
You don't have to pick up after him and his kids.
You will BE FREE!!!!
You will find yourself soon enough.
It's so liberating.

Thank you, that list helps. It does hurt sooo much but also I just can't carry on like this. I have tried to make it work but no one else did

Only a few days to go till I'm out of here, it's been an emotional roller coaster. On one hand I'm excited for the new start and get out of here. On the other hand I'm sad because without the kids our relationship was good!

What upsets me is I have supported him through so much, heart attack, court proceedings against his ex, so many problems with his ex. Other illnesses, major depression. And when I needed it he gave me none! I'm so disappointed and just can't believe it. 8 years down the toilet. But I can't live here it's not a home anymore.....onwards and upwards x

Well, if he wants you enough then he’ll make effort to repair things once you’ve gone. It’s time for him to prioritise you. Let’s see if he does that. You couldn’t carry on as you were. It’s just nasty and toxic. This girls should be ashamed of themselves. If it was me, on the day I moved out, I’d put them all in a WhatsApp group and message them all at the same time “hope you’re happy now. You’re disgusting and vile behaviour has split up our marriage. You should be ashamed of yourselves. Don’t contact me again”

I do feel like doing that, I want to say something but the other part is just say nothing as I don't want anymore grief from any of them and just want a new start .... stuff them!

you're absolutely doing the right thing op.

i might be tempted to mention that you hope he's not too lonely when his DDs are grown up, and have their own families, and no time to see him.

but then i can be a bit petty.

Tbh they are hardly there anymore, he's such an idiot lol

And although we've been together 8 years not one family member of his or friends I've met through him have messaged me or said anything. Maybe that's normal but I know I would

Soo we're in our new house, I feel so much better already

So glad you’re feeling better and I’m your new place! Well done you, I really hope you can find happiness

Congratulations and the best of luck to you!

Yay the new home and new life lass.

Well done on carrying through! That's not easy. I'm sure you will not be regretting it.

Yeah

Well done

Hi @sillycat72 Glad you're feeling better. It's even more confirmation you made the right decision- not that you needed it. xxx

How are you in yourself?

Congratulations