So my MIL was physically and emotionally abusive to my husband and his brother when they were children. My husband has forgiven her..the brother hasn’t and the brother does not allow her to see her grandchildren at all.
We recently had a baby...now 3 wks. MIL is down visiting for the first time and has made comments and hints about baby sitting in the future. I told my husband that I would never feel comfortable about this and that she can see baby not I wouldn’t be comfortable about her being alone with our child given her past history.
My husband thinks This is unfair and we’ve had a fight about it...i think he knows I’m in the right but is just upset about the reality of the situation. I’m 90% sure she wouldn’t do anything to our child but as I said to him..anything less than 100% is not enough. I honestly think she’s a horrible, horrible woman and commend my husband for is loyalty to her when she definitely doesn’t deserve him but I just think she’s a nasty piece of work and I’d never relax in that situation. I can tell this is going to cause major issues with her in the future but don’t see why I should have to even explain my reasoning!
Our daughter has had colic and she said to me ‘if you ever get the point where you feel like giving her a thump just put her down and take 10 min to yourself’!! I was like no can’t say I would ever feel that way, it’s not her fault I feel sorry for her!!
Just fuming and very hormonal still so just a rant really and to check I’m not overreacting...I know this will cause huge row but my priority is my daughter not her