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Some sort of twisted, dark intertwined destiny.

45 replies

Shadowdoor21 · 21/02/2020 02:05

I'll write it as a fairy story seen as I'm meant to be practicing for a class anyway :)

Once upon a time there was a young girl who met a man who was magnetic and beautiful. They kissed and there were fireworks. But something about him was...off. And a warning bell sounded in her heart. So, she pulled away and retreated into the crowd. Expecting never to see him again. But one week later, to her surprise - there he was, standing in her hallway.

You see the girl lived in student halls and there was a spare room. Until he moved in. And in her youthful wonder, she thought - 'it must be fate!' This however, is not a happy tale. And what actually followed, was one of the hardest years of her life.

Because although he appeared a bright and shining star to many, in reality, this man (if he can be called such) was a monster. A monster who stole his light from the girl and many others like her. Draining her like a leach and leaving only the gift of a poisoned bite in return.

But the girl found her freedom :) and as years past, she found herself again too. And seven years later, she took a class, a writing class in which she told a tale of the light stealer and his poisoned bite. And there was a round of applause. And she thought, 'there, that chapter is truly over'.

But that night, a dark and all too familiar shadow boarded her train home.

He spoke to her like an old friend (because as we who have seen his kind know, they never acknowledge the sorrow they have caused others). And in a strange way, she was pleased - because she felt nothing for that strange dark thing, no longer with any allure.

But the next week, he was on the train again and although she was able to be civil and to walk away without so much as a backwords glance at her station, she felt pain in her heart. Old pain. Sorrow for the girl he once hurt, who was still in her somewhere deep down. And she knew from what he had said, she would see him again on that train each week until her course came to an end...and she was filled with a cold and sickly dread...

Annnnnnyway lol so basically he will be on that train in future. My course ends when it's time for the last train so I have to catch it :/ I wonder what to expect next. I will try to avoid him obv...but yeah... feels like some sort of twisted fate lol.

Dunno why im posting really, just...such a complicated feeling you know :/ I don't like him but seeing him reminds me of that young kid I was, so desperate for his approval. I'm happy in myself now. I guess I just don't like things that threaten that.

I just hope I can continue to face things with decorum and confidence, even when I don't feel it. And not scream at him 'apologise muthafucka!!!' lol.

Anyone else have some unfortunate fate stories like this?

OP posts:
LoveIsLovely · 21/02/2020 02:25

You are trying to dress it up as something exciting and amazing when in reality he's probably just some boring normal bloke who eats, sleeps and shits like the rest of humanity.

Come back to planet earth and you'll feel better about this situation.

Shadowdoor21 · 21/02/2020 02:33

It's called artistic licence so of course I'm dressing it up, that was half the point.

My feet are firmly on the ground ta.

OP posts:
Monty27 · 21/02/2020 02:37
Grin
LoveIsLovely · 21/02/2020 05:43

So are you wanting advice or a critique of your writing skills?

Voxx · 21/02/2020 06:12

All this ‘dark destiny’ and ‘twisted fate’ stuff makes him sound exciting and romantic. In reality, he’s a common or garden twat who gets off on hurting/abusing women. Don’t let him reel you in again. He knows where you’re going to be now which isn’t good. Can you stay with a friend/in a travelodge after your course? I would seriously consider it.

Fatted · 21/02/2020 06:17

Put your headphones in, read your phone and ignore him?!

If he doesn't take the hint, make it blatantly obvious you have seen him and then just blatantly turn away and ignore him?!

Or perhaps tell him he was a complete and utter arse hole and you don't want to speak to him every again?!

That's what I would do.

Harakeke · 21/02/2020 06:18

Yep, garden variety twat who happens to take the same train as you do. No destiny or fate involved.

Do yourself a favour and move down the train away from him and don’t give it another thoight.

category12 · 21/02/2020 06:21

He only has the power over you that you give him these days.

And if you're speaking to him on the train, I would stop that. Read a book and listen to headphones, or write.

whatareyoucooking · 21/02/2020 06:22

I'd be on the phone for the train journey home. Through earphones. If he tries to get your attention just an unsmiling curt nod and point to ear whilst continuing conversation

whatareyoucooking · 21/02/2020 06:23

But certainly don't allow yourself to be reeled in again - this is not your story.

QuillBill · 21/02/2020 06:28

It's not a twisted dark intertwined destiny,

You got off with a student when you were also a student and he ended up in your halls. Then you dumped him because he was a twat and now you are both getting the same train. Ignore him, you don't t owe him your time or anything else.

MuscatelGrapes · 21/02/2020 06:35

What everyone else said. Also, the writing is much at its best when you drop the twee fairytale language, and are actually angry and conflicted. Also, the ‘strange, dark thing’ and ‘twisted fate’ actually glamorises an unpleasant man you were unlucky enough to encounter.

OhamIreally · 21/02/2020 06:36

I'm so sorry he hurt you and glad you got away. I agree he may be trying to reel you in again.
I think the Travelodge sounds a good idea.

Juliette20 · 21/02/2020 06:43

And lo, the fairy princess Melisandre spaketh unto the foul knave and sayeth "If you ever speak to me again you unutterable shitclown I will ram your head through the fucking train window."

Spudlet · 21/02/2020 06:46

Headphones, book, do not engage. Done.

He was a twat, you ditched him. No need to make anything more of it than that.

Voxx · 21/02/2020 06:52

@Juliette20 Grin

stayingontherail · 21/02/2020 06:53

Agree with sticking your headphones in and head down in a book or your writing and a curt acknowledgement if he tries to get your attention - like you only have a second spare to do so.

As you have a good imagination and felt the younger hurt woman you were, then maybe try bringing her back to mind and giving her a massive hug and tell her he hasn’t stolen her light - just overshadowed it - but it is still right there inside and untouched. This is not one for all MNers! But you may resonate and find it helpful.

CodenameVillanelle · 21/02/2020 06:54

It's perfectly reasonable for you not to speak to him. You aren't actually friends, he's an ex boyfriend who treated you badly. Go and sit in another part of the train.

MuscatelGrapes · 21/02/2020 07:00

Nicely phrased, @Juliette20. Grin

amiapropermum · 21/02/2020 07:27

I think writing it as a fairytale has downplayed your experience with him and made it all sound a bit twee. I'd steer clear of that genre!

Just a coincidence he was on your train. I know it must have brought up old, painful feelings. I'd probably try to get a different train home or something. You're not destined to suffer with him for eternity

FagAsh · 21/02/2020 07:35

Sorry op but this is really cringe

Helloitsmemargaret · 21/02/2020 07:39

Pinkbonbon is clearly doing a creative writing type class (she said she had to practice).

The coincidence has clearly freaked her out.

Do you have to be so cruel?

Monty27 · 21/02/2020 07:41

Ltb

Madamswearsalot · 21/02/2020 07:42

It occurs to me that you feel duty bound to be polite, friendly and engaging when you see him.

Its instilled in us and so hard to ignore but in these circumstances ignore away with impunity.

He was a shit and made you deeply unhappy - you really don't have to remain 'civil'. Give yourself permission to do as others have said - headphones on, book in hand etc. He may try to connect with you anyway - because he's that guy. Remember that you owe him absolutely nothing - not a smile, a chat nor any kind of explanation.

In classic parenting language, he bought this on himself Grin

User7777 · 21/02/2020 07:48

I enjoyed your writing.
How's Long were you with him for? I'm assuming he was abusive? Abusive exs can have some weird hold over you afterwards. I think it's fear.
Make that young kid, that you were when you were with him, proud. Ignore him.
On a side note, I think you should write a story for young kids about spotting and avoiding an abuser (but in kid friendly terms). Counteract that fairy tale culture of beauty and the beast etc, it's so harmful.