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Some sort of twisted, dark intertwined destiny.

45 replies

Shadowdoor21 · 21/02/2020 02:05

I'll write it as a fairy story seen as I'm meant to be practicing for a class anyway :)

Once upon a time there was a young girl who met a man who was magnetic and beautiful. They kissed and there were fireworks. But something about him was...off. And a warning bell sounded in her heart. So, she pulled away and retreated into the crowd. Expecting never to see him again. But one week later, to her surprise - there he was, standing in her hallway.

You see the girl lived in student halls and there was a spare room. Until he moved in. And in her youthful wonder, she thought - 'it must be fate!' This however, is not a happy tale. And what actually followed, was one of the hardest years of her life.

Because although he appeared a bright and shining star to many, in reality, this man (if he can be called such) was a monster. A monster who stole his light from the girl and many others like her. Draining her like a leach and leaving only the gift of a poisoned bite in return.

But the girl found her freedom :) and as years past, she found herself again too. And seven years later, she took a class, a writing class in which she told a tale of the light stealer and his poisoned bite. And there was a round of applause. And she thought, 'there, that chapter is truly over'.

But that night, a dark and all too familiar shadow boarded her train home.

He spoke to her like an old friend (because as we who have seen his kind know, they never acknowledge the sorrow they have caused others). And in a strange way, she was pleased - because she felt nothing for that strange dark thing, no longer with any allure.

But the next week, he was on the train again and although she was able to be civil and to walk away without so much as a backwords glance at her station, she felt pain in her heart. Old pain. Sorrow for the girl he once hurt, who was still in her somewhere deep down. And she knew from what he had said, she would see him again on that train each week until her course came to an end...and she was filled with a cold and sickly dread...

Annnnnnyway lol so basically he will be on that train in future. My course ends when it's time for the last train so I have to catch it :/ I wonder what to expect next. I will try to avoid him obv...but yeah... feels like some sort of twisted fate lol.

Dunno why im posting really, just...such a complicated feeling you know :/ I don't like him but seeing him reminds me of that young kid I was, so desperate for his approval. I'm happy in myself now. I guess I just don't like things that threaten that.

I just hope I can continue to face things with decorum and confidence, even when I don't feel it. And not scream at him 'apologise muthafucka!!!' lol.

Anyone else have some unfortunate fate stories like this?

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Shadowdoor21 · 21/02/2020 08:17

juliette20 yaaaas! Love it :)

Yeah they have a way of just getting you to respond :/

I mean he isn't a threat or anything, just irksome to have to be reminded of a tough period in my life which was largely so tough because of that him lol. I could just stop my course but I'm enjoying it so I'd rather not.

Wondering if he'll attempt to hit me with an apology some week. Then I'll know he's on the hoover haha. With a bit of luck that wont happen though. Like I said, will try and avoid him. Totally not interested so no worries there. Not afraid really either...its more just like the feeling if an old wound being scratched.

Anyway, have asked them to remove this as got paranoid lol but thanks for all the replies guys!

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autumnboys · 21/02/2020 08:21

Please don’t let the hope/expectation of an apology draw you in to conversation with him. Ear phones/podcast/if he turns up and tries to get your attention for a chat, point to the earphones and say ‘sorry, homework’, don’t even take them off. Good luck,

BirthdayCakes · 21/02/2020 09:08

I really like this OP!

Have you read Women Who Run With the Wolves? There's a similar story about "Bluebeard" - in the end the brothers (male aspects of the protagonists psyche) arrive to save the day..

Perhaps you could write yourself a happy ending?

ErrmWTAF · 21/02/2020 09:11

Channel your inner Vampire Willow. "Bored now" or, a Mumsnet classic: "off you fuck". No emotion, no interest - he's worthy of neither.

ZenNudist · 21/02/2020 09:13

Lol at shitclown. Yy to this.

Also writing not good. I think fairy story wrong genre for you. Sorry.

CousinKrispy · 21/02/2020 09:18

What everyone else said. Also, the writing is much at its best when you drop the twee fairytale language, and are actually angry and conflicted. Also, the ‘strange, dark thing’ and ‘twisted fate’ actually glamorises an unpleasant man you were unlucky enough to encounter.

Have to agree with MuscatelGrapes, and also with the others who advise not engaging with him. Tell him you have reading to do for your class, put in your headphones, and ignore him.

As women we are socialized to be accommodating and polite. It's OK to step away from that when someone has been an abusive dickhead to you in the past and not feel like you have to engage with them just to be "nice."

CousinKrispy · 21/02/2020 09:19

p.s. also it's spelled "leech" in that context. As in "Those Amazing Leeches" awfullibrarybooks.net/leeches/

Shadowdoor21 · 21/02/2020 09:33

It was a scribble written at 2am, it's not supposed to be Shakespeare ppl. Its cheesy and it doesn't flow. I was just trying to give ppl a little something a little different to read whilst tackling their insomnia jeez everyone's a critic lol.

Leeches? You sure? Hmm...it just doesn't look right somehow.

Will check out women who run with wolves :) thanks!

Anyway, not comin back as thread due to delete. Thanks again all x

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DontCallMeShitley · 21/02/2020 09:37

Was just going to say 'leech' but I see I am not the first.

I struggle with waffling so didn't read after that bit.

Reginabambina · 21/02/2020 09:39

So he’s just an arsehole ex boyfriend? Just ignore him and be grateful that you know better now.

MintyMabel · 21/02/2020 09:48

I think writing it as a fairytale has downplayed your experience with him and made it all sound a bit twee

Makes it pretty much unreadable too.

CousinKrispy · 21/02/2020 09:55

Yeah, "leech" for something/someone who drains you (physically or emotionally), like leeches suck blood from the body (ew gross), "leach" for the action of a chemical percolating out of a substance (like nutrients leaching from soil, or dye leaching from a piece of cloth).

As it's clearly parallel, you could use "leach" to talk about a crappy ex-boyfriend's emotional effect on you, but you'd need a different kind of phrase to manage it--yours definitely implied the blood-sucking leech. But you could do something interesting with leach, if you wanted to. Especially if you wanted to extend the water metaphor, could be interesting.

APatchyTomCat · 21/02/2020 09:58

Love how the solution after all that was

‘Travelodge’.

Weffiepops · 21/02/2020 10:04

When you're next on that train, Phone a friend and have a long conversation, then phone another age another. He won't have the space to speak to you and he'll get a very clear message that you have moved on and are not interested in him. Result!

MitziK · 21/02/2020 10:06

Stories like this?

Yep. Princess and the Frog. Frog convinces Princess to give him a kiss even though he was repulsive to her, because underneath, he's 'not like the other frogs'.

Princess kisses him. Then lo and behold, standing in front of her is - a frog. With lipstick marks.

She goes 'ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww', kicks him back into the swamp, wonders how on earth she was so fucking daft as to fall for his bullshit and walks away as a Heron comes picking its way delicately through the water.

PicsInRed · 21/02/2020 10:09

Drama's only fun on screen. In real life it fucking sucks.

Seek out something real and stable.

thethoughtfox · 21/02/2020 10:26

It isn't fate. He's just a dick.

Shinjirarenai · 21/02/2020 10:56

Tell him to fuck off.

dontgobaconmyheart · 21/02/2020 11:04

Confused what contrived derivative nonsense OP.You had a bad relationship, with an arsehole. Good for you for moving on but you're giving him a lot of power over you that isn't warranted.Just ignore him or get a later train, of he approaches you request he doesn't, or move. He isn't a fantasy figure out to get you he's just some dickhead bloke you are seeing because you live in the locality.

JaneJeffer · 21/02/2020 12:15

Get in a different carriage!

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