Bumble is depressing

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So after my latest man has finished with me after meeting him on Plenty of Fish I thought would try Bumble. Does anyone else find the format really demoralising? I'm not very photogenic and I'm a fuller figured girl and hardly anyone is swiping right so I can message them. The few that have seem to unmatch me immediately. I feel I'm being judged purely on the few decent pics I have up. At least on POF you can message freely, I'm articulate so have more success if I can freely chat to guys and win them over with my personality! Does anyone else find this?

Bumble is my favourite dating app. I like the way you can swipe a few, then chat, go on dates, leave the app for a few weeks if you dont feel like dating.

However, I live in a very densely populated urban area. I have friends who have tried it in rural areas and they have had very few matches and run out of people to swipe fast! So I guess it depends on where you are.

I do agree that OLD is generally about photos and headlines, to be fair I do the same with men. I'm a middle aged single mum, overweight, I have a good time on OLD most of the time but not met THE ONE. I agree it could be a bit depressing.

@Bigearringsbigsmile I feel the same, I tried OLD for a few months last year (was actually on Bumble and Tinder)and it was the most soul destroying few months, my confidence in men took a real bashing and my self-esteem hit rock bottom.

So I decided the old fashioned way is more my style and have started going out more. I also joined a gym and have more fun flirting with my hot single gym instructor than I did online and I at least know he is real (and single).

Ah OP. You have my sympathies. I found Bumble so superficial and depressing. OLD in general that though I guess

I met my DP offline. Thank goodness. I am curvy too but he says he loves that about me

I used to put full length photos of myself on Bumble - but didn't get that many matches. And even if I did, I felt like it was such hard work thinking of something to say enough to get a reply back. Painful