Long term relationships, do you exchange valentines cards?

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My Husband and I met on valentines day 18 years ago and I guess as it happens to be the day we met we treat it as special. We exchange cards and he even sends me a dozen red roses every year. We never discuss it and neither of us ever forget. It's very sweet, but don't think we'd do this if it hadn't been the day we met.

I was chatting with my brother who has been married 20 years today and when I asked if they had exchanged cards he laughed. Do you acknowledge valentines or do you think it's just a bit of a gimmick?

Never in 37 years. Although once when I was young and lithe I bought myself some black lacy skimpies as a Valentine treat for us both. (Tbh I'd have bought them.whatever the date 😉).

We’ve been together for 20 years and we’ve always done cards on valentines day. Dh also bought me Champagne, roses and chocolates and I gave him a framed old photo of us together. But we do nice things for each other quite often, not just on valentines day. Tonight he’s cooking for me.

We have been together 20 years. After we married we decided not to get cards any more - but the first year my soppy sweetheart wrote an additional sentiment in the previous year's card. I followed him with the same idea. A few words, nothing much, but from the heart.

It is funny looking back - how sexy and urgent the first few messages were, how we have mellowed and an old-fashioned cherishing with fondness has become more the theme with age. The cards are getting tatty round the edges, a bit like us...

They are a wonderful snapshot of our life together - would not be without it now. Would heartily recommend it to other couples.

I don’t get the amount of people on here that don’t celebrate valentines with the person they love. I spoil my fella coz I love him and want to make him feel special. I understand when people say one day shouldn’t be huge, the whole relationship should just be great but it’s the one day I get to buy my fella something sweet and do the gushy shit! We have a good relationship all year round but I just love valentines! I seem to be a minority!

We are currently separated but working on it. We don't normally but this year it seemed more important than ever .

I bought us a lovely meal for at his home (I am spending the weekend with him) and bought him some flowers . (He is a man who doesn't mind admitting he loves flowers) when I arrived there were chocs , roses and a huge VERY funny card.

Married 15 years. One of the problems was that we both stopped making an effort.

No. Dh is lovely and shows his love for me in lots of ways throughout the year. I don't need a card on a specific date for him to show it. I don't feel the need to show our relationship off to others either so am not bothered about having something to take a photo of and post on social media. We've been together 12 years.

No, my ex partner and I never exchanged cards as neither one of us were concerned by it. I don't need a piece of card to feel appreciated.

We exchanged silly cards every year.
Last year I got him a Valentine’s card with yoda from star wards on and it said yoda only one for me.
It’s become a bit of a silly little tradition. This year my card to him said...I love you more than my amazon prime deliveries, his said I love you even though your not a dog.
We plan on having a nice steak for tea followed my a pudding which we never have so it’s a little treat.
No fancy but just a bit of an inside joke between us every year that everyone else probably finds a bit weird but we are a weird couple lol
We’ve been together almost 12 years

We ignore Valentine’s Day.

It is the worst sort of mindless consumerism aimed at people who are incapable of thinking independently for themselves. I don’t need the marketing department of fucking Tesco to tell me how to relate to DP.

We don't. @FiremanSlam articulates the sentiment in our house pretty well.
But I do usually pick up a couple funny romantic-type cards around Valentine's - purely because that's when they're available - and give them to him randomly throughout the year if I think he needs a little emotional boost. And he'll do the same with little heart-shaped chocolates, cinnamon hearts etc.

@Kittensinmysupper I hope you both have a lovely weekend and that things work out for you.

Nope. Been together 20 years this year. The last time we marked it was 2001 as it was our first one together. DH didn't know if I made a big deal of it so he went to town. I enjoyed it, but felt guilty that I hadn't got him anything. A quick chat later and he was relieved to hear that I'm not bothered by it. We've not done a thing since.

He's thoughtful throughout the year (I'm hopeless however) and doesn't need a reminder.

We also don't exchange Christmas gifts.

Yes and it’s usually a tongue in cheek sarcastic one. We don’t really bother with gifts but this year he blindsided me with roses and chocolates!

We did the first year and then both agreed we had no interest in it. It's over the top and we do nice things for each other all the time anyway.

We sometimes remember but we both have birthdays around this time which we always celebrate.

I know we could do both but Valentine's day isn't particularly special to us.

We keep our original husband/wife valentines cards and just get them out every year

We normally have something a bit special for dinner and some fizz.

Been together 28 years and have never done valentines day.

Yes we get each other cards and a small gift. It's not a waste of money to us as we don't spend much and it's a nice thing to do.

No, but then we both think cards are a huge waste of money and don't buy each other Christmas or birthday cards either - I'd prefer he spent the money on chocolate, which is what he does 😁

No, but apart from the first year, we never have. Been together 23 years, married 20 years in a few months.

5 years in so not super long but yes we do. We make each other something though, rather than buying. It took me two hours this year

Yes we do. Married 31 years this year and always have. I like the lovely messages he writes in the cards

Married 13 years here. We don’t really acknowledge it at all. But that is because we have a very close, loving relationship all year round. I appreciate that he shows me he loves me every day in so many little ways that I have zero need for any grand, unoriginal gestures just because it’s 14th Feb. And I try to do the same for him.
Having said that, I have got some nice food in so we can send the kids to bed early and have a nice meal together!

Yes, every year, almost 30 years, with made up little rhymes

Well done to you who are still swapping cards for over 50 years 💞

We’ve not done Valentine’s Day or exchanged cards since we had our children, I’d rather celebrate our wedding anniversary which is special to us rather than a day that’s forced upon us.