Long term relationships, do you exchange valentines cards?

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My Husband and I met on valentines day 18 years ago and I guess as it happens to be the day we met we treat it as special. We exchange cards and he even sends me a dozen red roses every year. We never discuss it and neither of us ever forget. It's very sweet, but don't think we'd do this if it hadn't been the day we met.

I was chatting with my brother who has been married 20 years today and when I asked if they had exchanged cards he laughed. Do you acknowledge valentines or do you think it's just a bit of a gimmick?

We’ve been together for 20 years and this year I bought him some slippers, cute fox ones but slippers all the same! He did love them though. Ive also cooked an extra special dinner. He decorated the dining room with origami hearts and got me some flowers and chocolates. We’ve got three small children so it’s lovely for them to see and also it’s nice to make a little more effort as we are so busy with the children.

Married 30 yrs and we don’t do anything , but we also don’t do Christmas / birthdays / anniversaries . Dh writes me poetry but that doesn’t necessarily coincide with any particular date . I do however have a rose and chocolates today as my adult ds got a bag of goodies for myself , dh , dd and the dog to share .

Yes, we do. Married for 20 years this year, together almost 22.

No. Together 22 years. I got a kiss on the top if my head and a shoulder punch when he realised the date, around lunchtime (I'm at home with gastroenteritis). He got 'right back at you... huuuuurl!' from me.

We're in Catalunya and buy each other a book on 23rd April, just as commercial as Valentine's I suppose (St George's Day).

We do (together 13 years) but as others have pointed out it isn't hard to action is it, it's a 2 minute job. We just quite like choosing cards for each other generally though, finding funny ones etc.

DP keeps all his but I bin mine (though have kept a couple over the years) - nobody cares either way. We don't generally do gifts or go out for it as we do those things as and when anyway and theres enough gifting in the year - birthdays, xmas, anniversary etc. Sometimes one of us will chip in with one if we see something the other will like but it's not something that ever causes an issue.

He's working late tonight and I'll be at home with netflix enjoying the peace and quiet with a bag of chocolate buttons he bought me from Tesco the other day. Ideal.

We do. Married 20 years, together 30.

Just cards. Later fizz, posh ready meal and chocolates in front of a film - if we can find one we agree on

53 years and .... I sent him a card

23 years and yes we do

40 years and we don’t. I get flowers and cards for birthday and Christmases and am thoughtful ( I hope) with presents for DH. I still love him after all this time and I think that he loves me.

We exchange cards and buy each other a small gift. We usually get a takeaway too but we have a baby this year who gets a second wind in the evening so I'm cooking as usual, there's no chance of a romantic meal for two this year!

Been with my dh 8 years this year and we don't bother anymore, our wedding anniversary is less than a month away so we just celebrate that

We do. It's been 16 years and we still buy each other little gifts to bring a smile. A funny card and a valentines scratch card for DH , a card and flowers for me. That said, I ask DH to buy the flowers the day after because many are half the price and I can get kids for around the house. I love flowers but can't justify paying crazy Valentines prices.

Nope. I despise greeting cards with a passion. I especially don't see the point in greeting cards sent to someone who lives in the same house as you - just say the words.

Me and DP have never done anything on valentine's day. Neither of us are into big romantic gestures - I find them very teenage and cringey but no judgement on what others do with their lives.

Last week, we finished off some Xmas chocolate that a friend had brought back from Austria. I don't normally like chocolate much but I loved this stuff. DP managed to track some down and put it in my lunchbox on Monday (a really, really long day at work for me) without saying anything so I found it when I opened my lunchbox. That, to me, is far more caring and a much greater sign of love than a bunch of flowers, a card, a meal out, a piece of jewellery, a box of chocolates etc. on a specified day.

Maras2 well done! We must be similar, and married in 1971.

When I bought it this year the owner of the shop commented that it seems to be only "older" people who buy Valentine's Day cards.

We also used to write each other letters.....nowadays we exchange shopping lists

Valentine's day has no special extra meaning for us, yet we exchange cards and gifts every year even after 42 years. I got a beautiful bunch of red roses this morning. DH is a bit of a romantic!

@StiffUpperQuip I'm off to Tesco tomorrow to hoover up the half price flowers!

We both decided instead of spending money on chocs/flowers, we would both just use the money to order a massive indian takeaway tonight and share some red wine. We did get cards but no presents this year.

We don't do cards or gifts as such, but usually make a bit of extra time for each other. Something like a nice meal together, just at home. Just a little more effort than usual.
This year we have childcare, so are meeting for an after work coffee. That's all we need

Yes. Together 15 years.
Busy lives, kids, etc. Seems a small but significant gesture to remember why we're still together and still like each other.

No...it is not acknowledged as a special date in our house. On occasion we have taken advantage of meal deals but only because they are in the shops. So similar to Pancake Day

I am non-plussed about it and he is foreign so finds it bizarre. However I did find when younger that the couples who made the biggest deal about it were the ones that didn't last. I am not judging those who do make a big deal about it but I certainly don't think it's the mark of a better relationship than those who don't.

No. We don’t exchange birthday or Christmas things either. We just buy things we want throughout the year. We’ve been married for 12 years together for 14.

No presents but usually a card, we tend to go for a rude or silly one. I got a cup of tea on bed this morning which was much appreciated 👍

We make each other a card, and we have a nice meal. It's our 30th Valentine's Day, we're married just over 25years.

Not a card but I usually splurge on some goodies for myself . It saves him the bother and are much nicer than anything he might choose. We've been married over40 years.

We exchanged cards, both of us forgot to pick up envelopes DH pretended his had somehow got lost en route home though