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Claire's Law Application

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DaniMoo · 12/02/2020 18:07

Hey
Hoping someone can help? Before I drive myself insane.

I have recently starting dating someone new and it has come out, through me finding out as opposed to him telling me, that back in 2014 he went to prison for 7 months. (Drug related crime)

I confronted him, he said he was embarrassed and was going to tell me when the time was right.

Anyway... On the back of this, I have requested a Claire's Law Disclosure. I have children and I won't put their safety at risk for anyone. There has been absolutely no violence or even a hint of violence towards me. In fact he is one of the kindest, most respectful guys I have met. But I'm a mum!

Today I had a phone call from the police to ask me to attend the police station and have a 'chat'. This means, I'm guessing, they have something to disclose.

My question is... would they disclose the fact that he was in prison even though it was drug related? Or does this mean there is definitely DV in his past? They wouldn't disclose over the phone and I can't get an appointment until after half term to go in. I am freaking out just a little bit. Also have plans to see him, not that I'm scared of him at all. But feels like everything is up in the air.

Thanks in advance for any help!!! Thanks

OP posts:
NoMoreDickheads · 02/03/2020 23:24

It's really tough, because I don't see the man that they are talking about...

As you probably know, that's what a lot of abusers are like. Many of us would never imagine it based on what we know of them.

honestly, if it was just me, I might have taken the risk because I really like this guy. But for my kids sake I can't involve them in that possible risk.

I'm glad you've decided that. Maybe you feel a bit sad, but honestly as you know there are loads of guys who you can go out with who haven't assaulted people. xxx

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