I’m feeling pretty sad tonight to be honest.
It popped up in conversation about working full time or being at home with the children. HE ALWAYS has the impression that it’s easier than a days work. Now as I always say to him, I appreciate it’s hard going to work 5 days a week, BUT a parents job (or mother’s job in my case) is NEVER finished. His shift starts & it ends, he gets to go to the gym before work or after work, he doesn’t ask he just goes.
Me on the other hand, If I want to meet a friend without the kids I ask. I’m at home with my children, to physically look after them is fine - you know a nappy change or a feed, or preparing my toddlers lunch, that’s all fine. It’s everything else that comes with it, the endless list of housework, the isolation, the sense of loss of yourself.
To top it off, he won’t have the children for even an hour yet (our second child is 6 weeks old) why you ask? Because in his words ‘I don’t think I will cope with the 2 of them by myself’. But he has the audacity to me that ‘being at home is easy’.
In fact even when I used to work part time before going on maternity leave all I used to hear was ‘you ONLY work 2 days a week’. So so fed up. I just want to cry, being a mum is so hard sometimes, especially when you feel your own partner won’t back you.