So I have been with my partner for nearly 18years. He has always been a bit soppy compared to me. Over the years I have become less and less confident and less independent. I have really bad anxiety triggered by loss. I see a counsellor and I have spoken about how he treats me. I always thought that he treats me well and I should be grateful. But I have been saying how overwhelming I find him sometimes. For example I will just suggest something like changing my car and be pushes for me to do it. He kind of takes over and does it for me. He’ll offer to pay. I say I’m fancy a pizza and he buys 10 different pizzas and drives around for ages to get them. When we argue he panics and thinks I’m going to leave so says he’s going to hurt it kill himself and walks out. I then spend ages calling, texting or looking for him and begging for him to come back and bit do anything stupid. Then when he does come back I pretty much have to forget what I was annoyed about or what he did. He also smashes things, punches the wall and even hits the steering wheel and scares me (when he’s driving) during arguments. He knows it will make me stop whatever I’m saying to him and try to calm him down. We then don’t address what we were arguing about in the first place. It has been suggested that he is emotionally suffocating. That he has good intentions but it’s all to ‘keep me’. My partner has said that all he ever does is for me. He has changed his life And beliefs to suit me. I feel it’s all to much pressure. Everything is based on me and put on me. I realise that this is a massive contribution to my mental health problems (although it’s not all this). It’s like it’s an obsession. Is it possible for him to love me too much? Is it unhealthy. I feel so trapped.