Black painted toe nails

[Cherryblossom200]

Strange title I know! But I recently started chatting to quite a cool guy online, we had a couple of nice conversations - he a vegan etc which I respect. But when I looked at his toes he has black painted toe nails 😬

Sorry that was the end for me.

When did men painting their nails become a thing? I'm not sure about sharing the couch with a guy and having a nice joint toe nail painting sesh 😂

An old boyfriend of mine had black lipstick. He was lovely.

Personally I wouldn’t find it attractive, but I’m sure some women would. Each to their own really, it’s not hurting anyone.

It wouldn't bother me either way.
My 5yo ds wants to paint his nails. Most young boys around here seem to have tried it out. We're in a liberal strong seat though.
Men painting their nails black has been a thing since I was a youngster in the 90's. It's not new.

It's been a thing since I was a youngster in the 1970s!

I don't think it's wrong for me to rule him out, it's my choice and doesn't say anything about me

Yes it does say something about you. If you rule out getting to know someone ypu otherwise like because they wear nail polish ( which let’s face it is entirely temporary) it says something about you. Just as him ruling out talking to you because of some cosmetic reason would say something about him.

I don’t like black nail varnish on anyone. Makes nails look too clawlike for my taste. But I really don’t think I could be bothered about the way a mans feet look. It’s just not something that concerns me.

Finger nails was standard then most men couldn't be arsed with toes 😁

It's fine to not date anyone if you don't like their styling fgs

It's fine to not date anyone if you don't like their styling fgs

Well yes, but it’s quite daft to claim that painting your toenails makes you somehow less of a man. There are all sorts of ways of being a man. Stereotypes are boring.

Stereotypes aren't just boring, they're harmful. They keep people in narrow, restrictive boxes and destroy lives. Men not being able to reach out because 'real men' don't have feelings, means that male suicide is on the rise, as is self harm and depression.

There's no such thing as a 'real man' - we're all just human beings.

I would find it a turn off. But then I have realized that I like men who have no sense of style at all. I just don't find stylishness attractive in a man.

Sonya I'm a bit like you I think, I don't like men who are over styled. For me it's a turn off.

I think it's totally ridiculous to give me grief over not wanting to date a guy because I have this opinion. I actually have to laugh, because I find this a lot on MN - people who think they have a right to tell a complete stranger what they can and can't do 😂 it's honestly laughable.

It's absolutely MY choice. I don't like it and don't find it attractive.

See people have different tastes etc.
I think I'd be classed as 'alternative' and I was an emo/goth/mosher in my youth so a man with painted nails to me looks pretty cool, wouldn't be an issue. It does not make them less of a man or feminine at all.
The whole idea of a 'man's man' is fucking ridiculous anyway.

Could you steer him towards a dark green or navy alternative?

(I don't think OP will be up for doing this somehow..)

Nobody should have painted toenails. Nobody!!!

OP, you are perfectly allowed to have preferences for the men you date, and to stop messaging men on dating sites for any reason.

However, you can't exactly claim to be "as open minded as possible" and "not sexist" if a man painting his toenails makes you spout outdated nonsense about "real men" and how it's "a step too far".

I'm not saying that you ought to date this guy in particular but if you want to sound open minded and not sexist, then maybe stop saying sexist, closed minded things? If you think that men wearing makeup is "icky" and have have rigid ideas about what makes someone "a real man" then maybe you're going to have to accept that you arent really as open minded as you'd like to think

I’m more Interested in how you saw his toenails? he clearly wanted you to see them. Sounds a bit try hard.

Hmmm. Black toe nails - the ‘three days dead’ look....
Not exactly a turn-on, unless you’re into necrophilia.

I think it's totally ridiculous to give me grief over not wanting to date a guy because I ?have this opinion. I actually have to laugh, because I find this a lot on MN - people who think they have a right to tell a complete stranger what they can and can't do 😂 it's honestly laughable

Don’t date him... honestly nobody cares. Just remember you were the one who started the thread and invited opinions.

She's obviously never heard of Glam Rock, New Romantics, Goth, Grunge, Heavy Metal, Indie, Emo and all the other times men have worn make up and nail varnish. Some even wear heels!

None of those things float my boat, tbh. Just as well we don't all get weak-kneed at the same things innit.

'I’m more Interested in how you saw his toenails?'

This is an excellent point. Was he wearing sandals? Or in a house bare feet?

He probs them carefully for you

Wouldn't bother me at all. I love men in eyeliner too.

Wish DH would paint his toe nails he’s a marathon runner and his toes and feet are minging.

@Cherryblossom200 of course it's fine for you to like what you like! That's what attraction is. I would instantly dismiss a man who wore trainers or liked jazz or who did not like dogs for example. And I don't find men in any makeup at all attractive, though I did when I was young, tastes change. When it cones to dating no one but you gets to decide who you find attractive :)

One man I was talking to was a cross dresser who liked to keep his legs shaved and his toenails painted so he could feel feminine. I'm not being in competition with my partner, half the time my legs and feet are akin to Frodo's!