Black painted toe nails

[Cherryblossom200]

Strange title I know! But I recently started chatting to quite a cool guy online, we had a couple of nice conversations - he a vegan etc which I respect. But when I looked at his toes he has black painted toe nails 😬

Sorry that was the end for me.

When did men painting their nails become a thing? I'm not sure about sharing the couch with a guy and having a nice joint toe nail painting sesh 😂

Wouldn’t bother me

It's ok to prefer your men to be masculine, because that's a preference. But being masculine is just one way to be a man - or woman.

It would turn me off too, but not for being unmasculine exactly, I'd just not be into it.

He is just a creative type, who is very eco and into veganism. All things I'm into. But not painted toes.

I went silent on him, and he just didn't get the message and sent me multiple messages. I find that just odd, most people would take the hint. We only exchanged a few messages.

My last boss, who I am still friends with, painted his toe nails black. Didnt look the type he is quite masculine.

He is very sexy and I didnt think it diminish that. Unfortunately, I know him too well to fancy him.

Wouldn’t bother me at all. My own toe nails are a sparkly black at the moment in any case, lol

It would make my flaps slam shut. I like quite masculine looking men, but we all have a type. No doubt some people would find chest hair a turn off (I don't).

I would be put off.

I think chest hair is fine and most guys have it. But it gives me the ick thinking of being in a relationship with a guy who will be sharing my nail varnish. Just feels all wrong 😝

Not my thing either.

Not for me. No attraction to androgynous males. I like very masculine men, big bear of a man preferably.

I went silent on him, and he just didn't get the message and sent me multiple messages. I find that just odd, most people would take the hint.

You ghosted him because you don't like his toenails and you think he's odd?!?

I mean it isnt something I would actively seek out in a partner but I cant find myself getting upset about it. It's a shame you've ruled out someone who you're otherwise compatible with over such a minor thing but I think it probably says more about you than him.

You are being sexist though, imagine the response a man would get for saying he doesnt like women who dont shave or wear make up as he likes a woman to be a woman, for example.

Unless this is just a goady thread.

Yes I did go silent on him and after sharing literally a couple of messages with him no I do not think that's odd.

Very different if we arranged to meet up or actually went on a date.

It's happened a few times with me...and I never expect someone to justify why they don't want to carry on chatting to me at such an early stage.

I would find the fingernail polish quite attractive.

But I can't get my head around black toenail polish on ANYONE, male or female. It just makes me think of some kind of foot disease or hygiene issue. Absolutely any colour would be better than that. Could you steer him towards a dark green or navy alternative?

No it's not a bloody goady thread. I was genuinely wondering if this is now a normal thing for guys now.

I don't think it's wrong for me to rule him out, it's my choice and doesn't say anything about me. I know it would bother me if we dated so better not to waste anyone's time.

We obviously have a different interpretation of being 'open minded'.
Not just open minded @12345kbm - as open minded as possible! But nail varnish is obviously further than anyone can possibly go :)

So you met online and have only exchanged a few messages. What else, if anything, was he wearing in his profile picture apart from bare, painted toes?

I was genuinely wondering if this is now a normal thing for guys now.

Really? It's been a 'normal thing' for guys in the cirlces I mix with for over 30 years now.

I thought us oldies were supposed to be the closed-minded and judgemental ones? And I just love reading all these comments when I know if the tables were turned, you'd be screaming that women can look however they want to and shouldn't be judged on it.

Well I've not come across it and lived in London most of my life where you get lots of people expressing their individuality. I've seen painted nails which I'm cool with, but not painted toe nails. I've not seen it on guys before and find it odd.

You like what you like, but I think instead of ghosting, you could have just said "sorry, I don't think I want to take this any further".

You started your thread saying you had a couple of nice conversations, and when you got called out on ghosting him, it became "literally a couple of messages".

Between that and your "I prefer a man to be a man " comment, I know who'd I rather get to know.

I don't think I've ever kissed a guy who hasn't worn makeup/painted his nails at some point!

Back then though it was just being gothy/androgynous/cool - we hadn't been told about gender when I was a young 'un.

Kurt Cobain painted his nails and wore frocks. The OP would get the vapours!

She's obviously never heard of Glam Rock, New Romantics, Goth, Grunge, Heavy Metal, Indie, Emo and all the other times men have worn make up and nail varnish. Some even wear heels!

Notthis, I meant precisely the same thing. It was just a couple of conversations/sentences - in the space of an hour or two. Nothing more than that, I don't call that ghosting. I call that changing your mind and moving onto someone else after a short space of time. Like I said very different if it's over a few days, organised a date etc.

When a guy disappears on me after literally a few messages/ sentences or whatever you want to call it. I don't then bombard them with messages. I get the message and move on.

1234, nope I'm not into that sort of music. Hence why I've not come across it. Each to their own, but not for me!

I dated a bloke in 1997 ish with black painted toenails and fingernails. He was a Goth.

Wasn't so unusual then for large tranches of 'alternative' men.

Feels like things are going backwards tbh