I wrote a long post just now then paged back by mistake and lost it all 
. I'm nc for this but have been on the boards for a while. I've been with my - well, now ex - for a number of years. We don't live together, not for reasons I liked (working away and constant commuting as a result) but were slowly edging towards sorting out pension nominees and talking about wills etc. I began to feel as though I would like to get married plus being each other's NOK after reading up the reality of being a non-legal partner, and broached the topic a couple of times plus afaik I haven’t kept it a secret that I’d like to be married one day. My partner either changed the subject or did the kind of face you get after biting into a lemon. Recently I brought up the topic again and possibly lemming-like going over the edge of a cliff, I asked them to marry me. I wouldn't want a huge wedding, a simple civil one would have sufficed. The response was 'you're bonkers' and 'I don't do marriage, stupid". Ok. That's clear then, it hurts but at least I know. Then they blocked me on WhatsApp, giving me the silent treatment (they stated this so that I would know) After a couple of days, they unblocked me and pinged off several messages, which I read but didn't reply to as quite frankly, the bonkers comment, whilst possibly justified, bloody stung. I'm not perfect but they've been with me for a long time, so good enough for that, to socialise with but not good enough to marry? I still haven't replied, come to that. They've since emailed me to tell me that they'll dump my stuff off outside my front door and can I confirm what number? (I'm pretty sure that they know it but still....). The key has been requested back - fair enough, it is over. I've since had another couple of emails from a different account, forwarding me the original ones adking about the door number etc. They obviously want me to read them. I have to reply but I’m struggling. I don’t want to seem pathetic or appearing to beg. Was it wrong to suggest marriage?