Am I worrying over nothing???

[AYRTON31]

OK long story short, I split up from my partner of 15 years a year ago and have since met someone esle we have been together for 7 months so far, he is one of the most amazing men I've met and is so loving and kind and will do anything for me, but at the start the sex was amazing and very frequent but has now slowed down to maybe once or twice a week, also have since discovered that he watches porn and alot of it nearly every day, now this is starting to make me feel that he no longer finds me attractive or is no longer turned on by me, when we do have sex it's amazing and he's so loving and the way he looks at me says that he wants me and that he loves me, every other part of the relationship is going perfect so far so am I over thinking this???

I think the sex frequency can slow down approaching the year stage. I personally wouldn't be happy with once a week . There will be lots of people who feel porn is wrong and some may think this is an issue and the reason why he doesnt want sex as often. I wouldnt agree but thats my opinion. I'm assuming he watched porn frequently when you first met and you were having a lot more sex so I wouldn't automatically jump to the two being related.
Can you not talk to him about it. Make sure everything is ok. It may just be that your sex drives aren't naturally matched and now the initial novelty has worn off he is just settling into his comfort zone. In all honesty though your sex life is the most intimate part of your relationship, you're only going to find out how he feels about it , and you, by asking him.

You were only single 5 months, I suspect you leapt into a new relationship because you don't love and value yourself. Once you can be happy single you don't need to settle for these porn addicted pervs who make you feel like shit

Ahhh... the slow decline into porn addiction.
That is now a deal-breaker for me after my last LT relationship.
He was complete porn addict.
It affected our sex life and he was off trying to fulfill his fantasies elsewhere.
You need to talk to him about this.
Porn is now a deal-breaker for many and for very good reasons.
It's up to you what you find acceptable.
Do you know what kind of porn he is looking at?
Does he look when he is with you?

This is the thing he has been single for 2 years so I'm guessing that he's gottten to used to it, I have spoken to him about the frequency in sex and he always says I have nothing to worry about but we both work long and are tired, but also I've never been with a man that uses porn so I can't get my head around it so I automatically think that he's not happy with me, but he's not a percy person at all he's so sensitive and caring very hard working and will do anything for me or to help me so I don't know if I'm overreacting and that he's like someone said above just settled into the relationship and is happy the way things are??

And no he hides his porn watching to when I haven't come home from work before him or he spends ages in the bath

Are you living together?

Well he stays at mine every night now, but we haven't said the official term we living together yet as I don't want to pressure him in anyway

So he's moved in by stealth, but you don't want to pressure him?

He stays at yours every night but you don't want to pressure him??

It's only been seven months and he is already prioritising porn over your sex live??

No thanks! This is your honeymoon period. You deserve better!

Do you want him to live with you? Then have a conversation about it.

I hope he's paying his way and doing his share of cooking and housework.

I bet you are cooking for him every night.....

He has done a line on you.

Well I think it's still so early to say right we live together you need to start paying your way?? He does loads of stuff round the house so i take that as his contribution, of course I love having him here he's amazing to me, he's really helped me get back to being happy since splitting up from my ex but now I'm thinking that he prefers the porn over sex with me and its maybe because I'm a curvier girl and he's so fit and skinny, but I've asked him about it and he says I have nothing to worry about and how much he loves me and he's never going anyhwere and how happy I make him

Twice a week doesn't seem odd, the porn thing though is concerning if it's instead of intimacy with you. Age factors in too, most couples are not at it like rabbits post 40 years old -

I'm 33 and he's 35 and he has the health of a 20yr old as he plays alot of sport, but he just keeps putting it down to both of us being tired and that of course he wants to sleep with me more, I'm guessing as said above somewhere that he was watching porn before he met me and has been single for 2 years so its become a habit but I'm more worried that's its an addiction

You had one adult relationship starting when you were 17/18, which lasted 15 years.

Then you waited five months before getting involved with someone and moving ridiculously fast, viewing him as your rescuer from your grief/distress over your relationship breakdown.

That's not screaming "healthy relationship".

Was it even as long as five months before you jumped straight into this?

I don't know what to do for the best, I am in love with this man and he makes me smile everyday and makes me happy, but there's just this doubt in my head that he's no longer 100% happy with me personally

I split up at the start of last February and I met my current partner in July last year, it had been a long time since I was happy in my previous relationship

Even when my fiance was single he rarely looked at porn. He certainly doesn't now. It is a deal breaker for me and for a lot of women.

And when you declare this man perfect and amazing is that because you're comparing him to the worst of your relationship with your ex as it ended? I mean, what's your baseline here?

You barely know this man.

Are you cooking and cleaning for him? Is he contributing? If he's so amazing and it's all so perfect why are you afraid to say "hey, you appear to have moved yourself into my home"?

He does loads round the house, decorating fixing stuff that i haven't been able to since moving into a house on my own, he's cleared my garden, we take turns in paying for food etc... But I haven't said anything about other bills of the house, his mum told me his last girlfriend was really full on and kept pressurising him and he had to call it off, things are going well and I don't want to lose him

name change fail there OP.

I think you are blinded by your feelings.

He stays over and watches porn rather than have sex with you? Screams selfish lover to me. It is easier and less demanding for him to ejaculate that way.

No reflection on you. It is him.

Sorry that was my mess up with my username, thank you all for all your advice so far

Man needing somewhere free to live love bombs and moves in by stealth with vulnerable desperate woman.

Woman starts to notice shes been 'had' only 7 months in but decides to ignore all the huge red flags because she 'loves' him.

Op, it is not entirely up to him how fast the relationship goes. Tell him to go back to his place a couple of nights a week to give you room to think about whether this car crash of a relationship is going to work.

It isnt right if a man sponging off you isnt approachable about basic relationship issues, like asking him to contribute where he is living.

Ew porn addicted cocklodger. Come on you can do better than this. Get him to move out and work on loving and valuing yourself, do some research into codependency. You aren't in the best place to be in a healthy relationship and that's why you're with someone shit.