Should I let the cat out of the bag?

[Starrynite]

There is a very obvious affair going on in my workplace. It appears to be well known and have been going on sometime.
The two parties do not work at the same branch. One is in an head office/HR role, and the other customer facing.

The moral issue is that one of these parties is married.

Is it right that a lot of people know about this and it continues behind the wife's back?

It's not right, but its none of your business

If were the wife I would want to know. It then gives a chance for them to move on with a new life as she will already have a gut instinct something is up but not sure what.

I would stay well out of it.

The messenger always gets shot

I know it's not my place to tell her, but I'd be devastated to find out people knew about a long term affair and didn't tell me.

I agree I’d be tempted to let the cat out of the bag.
You might get some negative fall out though. It could make things worse at work.

Don't get involved.

Nothing to do with you.

I agree nothing to do with you.

Strange thing to be mulling over at 9pm on a Saturday night.

Are you connected to either of these people outside of work?

Why would you want to interfere? Do you know the wife personally?

Just keep well out. Honestly. If so many people know she will find out. Or might already know.
I have worked with serial married shaggers. I don't approve but unless the wife was a personal friend I would not see it as something to get involved with.

Anonymous letter to the wife, give as much info as possible.

I think this is akin to someone getting bullied in the playground and the other kids not getting involved cos it’s none of their business. It could go on for years if no one give the poor cow a heads up.

It has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Yes, it is dreadful that her husband is making a fool of her (if she doesn’t know), but unless you are a very close friend of hers then why would you interfere?

You aren’t responsible for the morality of your colleagues.

So really it's just gossip then or has someone witnessed them shagging?

The key word is "appears" to be.

So nasty office gossip, no one knows, and one of them is married.

Not nice,,eh?

A relatives partner was having an affair. I found out from a friend after it all came out that it was common knowledge at their place of work.

Ive since distanced myself from that friend.

I'd want to know OP.

Do you know someone affected by it? And have you got proof? Or are you just the office gossip? Because if that's the case I'd say keep your nose out.

I tend to live by the mantra ‘do unto others as you would have done to you’ so yes I’d definitely want to know I was being made a fool of and I’d tell the wife. If it’s well known then I wouldn’t worry about repercussions and contact her anonymously.

If she’s already aware, fair enough, but if she doesn’t she may have suspicions and this could be helpful in that she’ll know she’s not crazy and paranoid!

Dont get involved.

Do you know it's definitely happening?

Do you know the wife?

I only say this because there's a woman who's a serial bullshitter at my office, has a huge crush one one of the site workers (think construction company), turns out she exaggerating MASSIVELY and fabricated a whole affair/relationship out of a few texts

It's common knowledge within the branch I work in - with the OW. I personally don't know the wife but others do.

I guess keeping out of it would be the best option! I'd hate to be in the wife's position.

@whataballbag she sounds crazy!

No it's definitely happening, for roughly a year