DH controlling via drink

[ViviNg]

I'm really pissed off... tonight DH went out and bought some alcohol for this eve. We don't drink during the week and I asked for a large beer as wine makes me feel tipsy. He came back with a half bottle of wine for himself and a four pack of beers for me as they'd run out of the big bottle.
After he finished his wine he asked me to fetch him one of my beers. I said he's already had a half of wine and can't expect to just take mine! At that point he said he was going to bed (although we were watching something) and this was why alcohol was bad. It's annoyed me not because I'm desperate for another beer, but because he thinks I shouldn't be drinking 4 small beers over a few hours, but it's ok for him to have half a wine plus a beer. It's ruined the evening now as he's gone to bed and I'm sat feeling like a wino with a small beer. Is his behaviour normal?! I think he's a petulant child.

You both sound like children

And who ever buys half a bottle of wine? I mean does that exist outside of strange French restaurants.

I mean I just can’t get over buying half a bottle of wine.

And FYI I would have shared my beer - if I didn’t want them all.

Half a bottle of wine?! Do shops even sell that? To be fair you asked for a large beer which is around 660mls so 2/3 small bottles so why not just let him have one? Seems like a lot of fuss for nothing.

Jesus. This is the pits.

Why not have a stock of drinks you both like and have a sensible amount a few nights per week?

What have either of you achieved by adopting such an immature attitude to a simple beverage?

A large beer is 2 normal bottles

What’s the actual problem here?

The problem is the OP and her DP
Are 14
And don’t know that grown ups by a bottle of wine at the shop - and share

I'd love to buy half bottles, where are these from? I know you get mini bottles but those are too small (I need a Goldilocks bottle)

What’s wrong with buying a bottle and either putting a fucking cork in it. Or drinking more of it if you want to

This is MADNESS PEOPLE

Ah ok I see the issue!

@tombakersscarf two mini bottles are the perfect size 😁

You should have let him have the beer. All your fault I’m afraid.

Pretty easy to get half bottles as most supermarkets sell them. it's not that I can't stand to be parted form drink... It's that he just expected me to give him mine just because I was drinking slowly, then fucked off to bed in a huff leaving me to do all the washing, etc for the eve.
Btw for the beer I drink 4 small is the equiv of a large bottle. I started drinking this one the continent and have never had a problem till I met my DH.

What beer is it????

I think you’ve got a problem with alcohol
End of

Ok, I see you can't understand.. maybe think of it as something else that's not alcohol and you might just get it. I don't appreciate being told what to do when I'm a grown adult taking on 80% of the grunt work for our household and this is his excuse to go to bed and leave me the harder tasks.

I've never seen a half bottle where i shop. Do you live in Scotland?

You've changed your story now about why you're angry.

Not really but never mind. I was looking to share my frustration but fuck me I can see how so many women end up being controlled by men with you lot about. Guess I'll put up a shut up. Hope he's had a good hours sleep while I've sorted the house for tmo

Look clearly there are issues. You’ve chosen the wrong thing to highlight the issues. As without us knowing the issues it has come across as a petty argument.

Can you start a thread about how you feel in general and not link it to one thing without any context. Otherwise you’re just going to get half serious replies which might not help you.

I would be embarrassed to start a thread about this

You’re literally moaning because he wanted one of your beers. That’s so petty!

@aroundtheworldyet thank you, I think you're right. It's not just about the drink, but it's another evening where I feel worthless and close to tears as if there something majorly wrong with me.

Aldi do half bottles sometimes. TBF neither has a problem with drink as neither were on large quantities. The communication and lack of sharing needs some work maybe 🤔

You get 750mls in Scotland with the odd litre or miniature. Have not seen a half bottle. How much is in it?

@ViviNg
Delete this thread. Start a new one. Or name change and start a new one. It will be good for you to coherently put your thoughts and feelings down and there is a lot of support.
Don’t be put off by this. Even I thought it was a bit jokey tbh.

There is a lot of help on here.

@aroundtheworldyet thank you. I will x

Tesco sell half bottles of wine.

Why would you both be sat drinking if you then have to do chores afterwards? I'd have just sat and drank my beer after he went to bed - 4 small beers isn't being a "wino" imo.

Is he controlling in other ways? Do you need to talk about that as it's own subject?

@KellyHall he can be very controlling. I just can't put my finger On it a lot of the time and he makes me feel like I'm the one in the wrong. Even having an evening out with friends once every 3 months is an issue as it's unfair that I get to go out of he's at home.