My weight and name calling

[Isthisnormalorisitme]

I've posted before. I've come close to leaving but didn't quite manage, I now have some support but just need someone to tell me how wrong this is.
So I am a little over my healthy weight, and would be much more comfortable half a stone lighter.
Partner is constantly on at me about it, asking if I have looked in the mirror at myself, don't I realise I am fat. He has been sending our son texts to tell him to get me fitter and to lose weight.

What is your situation OP.. ? Are you married ? Living together ? In the uk , ? both names on house ?

You say "son,it is absolutely unacceptable for a man to hit a woman, ever. In future if you ever behave that way to me or another woman again, know that I will call the police. Your father is an emotionally abusive bully and as such I am leaving him. Because no one gets to treat me like that. Sort out your attitude, don't turn out like your dad,or you'll have a lonely life too. And I don't want that for you kid, because I love you'.

Not married, house in joint names and living in UK. House is not really in a sellable state at the moment though. Part renovated, which doesn't make things easy

There are people who are interested in buying houses that need some work.

Please leave

This is dreadful what a horrible piece of crap he is

My abusive ex hounded me to become a size 8
I was 5 ft 11 size 12 looked perfectly fine
I will never forget the torment and how much I beat myself up over my weight
He was 18stone and horrifically ugly - in his mind he was a babe and apparently could have anyone he wanted but decided to settle for me

My point is - it won't get better sadly
Please please go
Speak out and get good legal advice

@36looondonn
That's outrageous.
Have been told by solicitor to sort my finances out and plan
Feel so down

Change is hard.

You get so used to living in shit that it stops smelling. But it really does stink. And you do not want to smell like it too as you go out in the world.

The steps you have to take seem so hard but they are easier than what you are facing day after day right now.

Break the steps down into manageable units. Make lists. Tick off your accomplishments, no matter how small.

Confide in trustworthy friends and family.

You do not have to do this alone.

Has your solicitor given you specific advice to follow?

Use your sadness and anger to motivate you to take your son and yourself out of the shit.

You can do this. You will have a happier life once you rid yourself of your abusive husband. There are countless women here on MN who can testify to that.

I really wish you and your son all the best