We are exclusive but haven’t had the relationship chat yet. We wanted to date to see where things go without dating others.
It’s been only 6 weeks and 7 dates. Not slept together or stayed over. This is me wanting to slow it down and he’s very respectful of this, never any pressure. We’ve done other things just not sex!
So the issue...He’s never been massively chatty over text. We have short text chats that he often initiates (him more than me). But there can be days I don’t hear from him...maybe two or three at a time. Sometimes I’ve messaged instead during a silent few days and he replies. When I’m with him it’s nice and he’s intimate, doesn’t push for sex at all, happy to take things at a pace I want in all areas really. He talks about the future in a jokey/serious way...for instance I was talking about Berlin last night and he said maybe we can go together one day and he winks. He often instigates the next date and will say if he’s busy on x days the following week so I’m aware of his availability. All this is fine and good as far as I can see?!
But I’ve never ever dated someone who contacts so little. I’m not someone who wants to be messaging all day with a man but the days of total silence seem odd? Is it normal to not even drop in with one text? He has his phone constantly and is online a lot, so it’s not that he’s not a phone person. Before anyone says maybe he’s waiting for me to text, I do contact him first too.
I’m happy not messaging if I know it’s not a sign that something isn’t quite right? But I don’t want to ask him about it and cause an issue where there isn’t one. It makes me wonder if he’s not that bothered and isn’t thinking of me much? Is that silly?
What do you think?