Did this sound like a rude comment ? OLD

[Phoenixxx]

I saw that a guy was from my home town and it was listed that he went to one of the schools.
His was a private, very well-achieving prestigious school, the one I went to down the road was a bog standard one.
I messaged him after our initial messages to say that we were from the same area, and he asked if I had gone to his school. I joked that I had gone to the other one for peasants, and he stopped replying.
Wondering if he had taken offense or am I just overthinking it ? Just tired of them randomly stopping replying.

You are-over thinking. It was obv a joke.

Yeah maybe I am, he maybe took offense, oh well !

He perhaps thinks that you would judge him as a posh cunt.

I went to a private school and have faced a lot of abuse over it. It is seemingly acceptable to abuse people who went to private schools. I expect he’s taken a lot of bull over the years and doesn’t want any more.

I’d say it has a lot to do with the comment.

My guess would be he's a snob that has made assumptions about you and that is his loss and his bad, don't give him a 2nd thought, next!

Yeah maybe, I didn't think of that tbh. I wish I had gone to his, the behaviour at mine was awful ! I'd never give anyone abuse for being privilleged, only thing I can't stand is snobs.

Or yeah, maybe alternatively he's looking down on me for going to a rough school, who knows 😂

Oh wow OK wasn't expecting that 😂

Inverted snobbery he may think seeing your comment.

I went to a poor achieving school and he went to an excellent one, I was making a joke about my school, but I guess people take jokes differently !

If you’d said that to me, i’d assume that you had a chip on your shoulder, and I wouldn’t reply either.

Yeah fair enough, I don't really care which school I went to it's not done me any harm ! Thought I was making a joke but obvs not 😂

Either it's because he felt you'd judged him for where he went to school. He probably doesn't feel like justifying his private education and already, you've made him feel like he'd have to. All this before a first date even.
Or maybe he's a snob.
Either way, next!

Yeah exactly, it's a bit of a massive assumption just from one jokey comment, next !

He might have stopped replying anyway, you don’t know.

Well I found it funny @Phoenixxx

True, they often do 🙄

Thanks redrec :) just wish everything wasn't so offensive these days and if you make one little joke youre a dickhead apparently.

The problem is that a joke written down may not sound the same to someone else. I say things in my head but know that when written they don't have the intonation, the smile or wink that I envision when I say it to myself.

If the guy is worth your effort to try again then just say - hope you realise I was joking and didn't intend to cause offense. If he still doesn't reply then that might prove him to be a pompous ass.

That's very true, and that's a good suggestion thanks, i've just sent that to him so will see !

It sounds like you don't have the same sense of humour. Either that, or another date came along his end and took his attention away. If he doesn't reply to your latest email, I'd suggest it's no great loss.

@Phoenixxx it was a joke and some people have no sense of humour 🙄 I would have said the same thing in your shoes! Keep being yourself u wanna be with someone with a sense of humour not a miserable bastard!

I would have laughed OP, it's the kind of humour I have too! He's probably done you a favour because he's either looking down on you or doesn't share a similar sense of humour.

Either

1. He's decided you're not posh enough for him
2. He thinks you'd judge him for being posh
3. He doesn't share your sense of humour in which case not worth pursuing anything anyway IMO
4. He dropped his phone down a well

It was quite clearly a harmless joke. Anyone offended enough to not reply would certainly not be someone I'd be interested in going any further with anyway.