Did this sound like a rude comment ? OLD

[Phoenixxx]

I saw that a guy was from my home town and it was listed that he went to one of the schools.
His was a private, very well-achieving prestigious school, the one I went to down the road was a bog standard one.
I messaged him after our initial messages to say that we were from the same area, and he asked if I had gone to his school. I joked that I had gone to the other one for peasants, and he stopped replying.
Wondering if he had taken offense or am I just overthinking it ? Just tired of them randomly stopping replying.

i went to private school and get so embarrassed when people ask where i went. its usually when you meet people from your area and it comes up. i find most make "ooh you're posh then" or innocent comments like yours, and i hate it. it just makes me feel different and awkward. when younger i would find i was in the minority as well and, when mentioned in a group setting, it would often open a topic of "private vs public". Happens less and less in my later offices and, if it does ever rarely come up, im not the minority here anymore.

Interesting that you assume you offended him rather than that maybe you should be offended! Another way of looking at it - He brought up the question of whether you went to his school, you said no, he stopped talking to you!

Maybe he thought you were saying that people from his school treated people from your school like peasants?
Maybe he didn't know whether you were saying it in a chippy manner or a jokey way, and decided just not to answer in case you were a bit funny. A line of text from a complete stranger can be hard to interpret.

I know where you’re coming from @Kn0ckOnTheDoor but he brought it up didn’t he, And has it on his profile? I don’t expect you would do that.

If he doesn't appreciate that when you're messaging on line it's easy to misinterpret comments, jokes don't always land without context, body language etc. or he's just very sensitive about his privileged background, he's was going to be hard work anyway.

@Sharkyfan oh yes, definitely wouldnt be on my profile.

That's true, he asked if I went there and I said no, maybe he's judging me because of my school ! It's all a bit ridiculous, I care if they are a nice person, not these kinds of things.
But I think I will avoid making any similar jokes on OLD as it's clear it can come across very badly, some people have a different/no sense of humour etc.

He hasn't replied to me apologising saying it was a joke so too bad ! I wish when people didn't reply on OLD they would just unmatch you straightaway, rather than leaving you wondering if they still may reply.

I've no idea why he'd be offended. It sounds more likely that he's judging you rather than you're judging him.

If he's judging me than he can do one lol i'll have had a lucky escape !

What’s old

Online dating :)

Or maybe he’s heard it all before......

Your comment perhaps revealed you as an inverted snob. Who cares what school anyone went to? You were the one who made an issue of it. People reveal a lot in humour. So 'it's just a joke' doesn't wash.

I went to a very posh post grad college and have had lots of comments, bullying even, over the years from people in my line of work who didn't - it's tiresome.

General advice with OLD is to be very mindful - especially with humour where it really needs your presence to be understood.

I think you're bringing your own experiences into this. I didn't 'make an issue' of it, just a simple joke as the schools are known in our area for being great /rubbish respectfully.
Maybe you should realise that not every single joke reveals some kind deep-rooted issues.