Please help me to sleep in bed with my DP

[Rosequartz7]

I'm a really light sleeper and he snores, that the main thing.
I was on my own with DS for 9 years before he moved in, so only got woken up by insomnia from anxiety which is now much better, DS coming in for a bit when he was younger, or if he was ill, but hes now 12 so have been sleeping okay for years and I'm used to my own space at night.
Currently its ended up DP or I sleep in the spare room every night, we try sleeping together sometimes but within about 30 mins I'm in the spare room as he breathes and snores loudly
We're buying our first home together - a flat with 2 bedrooms and a tiny lounge so we will have to sleep together imminently.
We've tried:
Me: lavender oil, sleeping tablets (make me dopey for work so not great) CBD oil, ear plugs, saving for a weighted blanket.
Him: GP for nose spray, one of those head strap things that keep your mouth shut, nose strips,various things that go up his nostrils, antihistamines, asking for nose surgery as he cant breathe well lying down (his neck isnt big enough and he's not overweight at all so they said he isnt allowed) he has been so good.
I love him dearly and just want to sleep in with him every night.
Has anyone got any advice? Will try anything!

I ordered the headphones and used the rain rain app, even up full volume I can still hear him and its waking me up that's pretty loud right??

The timing of reading this!! I'm sat up on my phone next to my snoring DH. It's literally driving me mad. He started at 3am and I've woken him 3 times to ask him to stop with no luck. I have a flat out day and I'm going to be exhausted again because of him.

@arhhhhhnofreeusernames horrendous he went in the spare room but we are running out of time as we wont have it much longer. I'm so shattered now and have a demanding job. I feel your pain. Snoring is the absolute worst

Wax ear plugs!

If your son is 12, isn’t he already in secondary school so wondering why you need to be in catchment? Might open up your options?

Haven't rtft so sorry if this has been suggested: Have you asked the doctor if he might have a deviated septum? I had a deviated septum, that before it was surgically corrected, I couldn't breath through my nose. Mind you I was already referred to ENT for tonsils and it was ENT who referred me to having a CT scan to diagnose it. Constant mouth breathing was drying out my throat too, so my quality of life (without chronic tonsillitis, dry sore throat and sleeping better) has significantly improved. See a different doctor if you have to because constant mouth breathing is not good for him.

Sofa bed in living room for him

OverByYer he's 11, sorry, typo. Due to go up in September.

If you can afford it then get a sleep apnea test done privately - we used sleeptest (google them).

They send the kit out to you, your partner hooks himself up to the monitor and finger pulse machine and it takes a recording. Send it back in the post the next day and then within a week you have the results. Quite detailed and it will give your partner plenty of information to take to his GP and insist on being referred. The NHS will want to repeat its own studies, but doing the private study will allow him to prove that there is a problem and that it needs to be addressed.

Try silicone/wax earplugs! They don’t hurt your ears using them every night and they dull the snoring right down, I also top and tail with DP if it’s a bad night. I know you said sleeping pills make you too drowsy but I use a brand from America called Kirkland sleep aid, half a tablet does the job and doesn’t leave you too drowsy they’re brilliant.

Failing all that Now and then I end up in the living room on top of a few duvets and a maternity pillow, it’s pretty comfy tbh.

Hi Rose I have been through just about all that you have described with your DP and the only solution to my sinus, breathing problems and a breath that did not smell good with to have my nasal polyps reduced for a second time, the latter being far more successful that the previous attempt 16 years or so ago.
FWIW I think that you need a second opinion at the Dr's surgery and insist that the advice of an ENT consultant is required. In my case I had my ears syringed and had my nose examined on 2 occasions and within 1/15 seconds of th3e consultant using a camera in my nostrils totally pain free he was in no doubt I required an operation.
This was completed within 2 months and my breathing has very much improved and in addition I do not speak as if I have a cold.
Good luck.

Can you get a 3 bedroom place? Honestly, it's great that he wants to sort it but long term sleep deprivation massively fucks up both mental and physical health.