My ex partner left me, slept with a friend twice who offered him a place to stay. I decided to work through it because he was single at the time. I never went that far as having any physical contact with any man, I spoke with men on FB/IG etc (no dating sites) some asked me out & some just chatted (no sex talk). I was very honest with these men & told them I wasn’t ready etc. I told my ex this but not all the details because it felt irrelevant & I didn’t want to upset him. I deleted these messages before we decided to reconcile because they weren’t important to me. He can’t get over the fact I deleted them, I didn’t tell him all the details, & is basically blaming me for not working things out. I deleted them before he was back on the scene & I did lie to him but not to be malicious, but I feel him putting all the blame on me is unfair. I finally admitted all of the details of these messages because he wouldn’t let it go & I have apologised for lying. I will add that he was very jealous & insecure, suffered with ptsd & depression. He hated me going out, wearing make up & always thought I was flirting. & accused me of cheating. He had cheated on me in the past & had messaged other girls in a sexual manner but hand on heart I was never unfaithful & loved him with all my heart. He said he knows his worth, he can’t get over me talking to those guys, lying about all of the details, & my reason for deleting in his opinion was pathetic. Am I being unreasonable in thinking he should forgive me & we should work through things?
Sorry for the long story & I hope it makes sense :)