AIBU to ask DH to commute 40minutes

[melj22]

So... DH has great job that we relocated for 6months ago, I didn't want to relocate to this place but did as was great job for DH and he is the sole income earner, now 6 months later I am still hating it, would love to live in another town 40minutes away, he could keep the job but would have to commute... I would be much happier sending our oldest to school in this other town, so much more in the other place for me and two little ones than where we are now... I want to get settled somewhere permanently before oldest starts school but I just really don't want it to be where we are now! Also we can't afford to build where we are but could easily in the other place. Help!

@AmyFarrahFowlersTiara one of the kids is already at school, she hates where she lives and says there's much more for her in the other town. It's not just hypothetical.

Also what a bizarre suggestion. Find a job, set up all the kids with child care and school and then move. What a phenomenal waste of time and effort.

I sometimes commute for 2 hours each way as I work cross county. It's no big deal.

I already commute 45 minutes to an hour- and that's in the uk- ironically it used to take me longer to get to a job I had only a few miles from my house (due to shit traffic - new housing estates that the roads cant cope with) than it now does to get to a job 17 miles away...

personally I think your DH should commute tbh- it sounds like the other place will be better for the family long term, and if he argues - its ony because it will suit HIM better - not the family -