Relationship advice

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I've just started to see someone who was all over me on the second date, I told him to back off and he did. He has a BFF who hasn't been well and texts a lot for support. He's sent a picture of me and she said I look 'homely' and on date 4 this week she was constantly texting asking where he was/what he was doing. I think that's out of order and disrespectful. Am I being unreasonable in thinking she should leave him alone when we are together and that he ought to tell her he's out and will reply later!

I think so yes ! Would really annoy me surely if your on a date all of his attention should be on you not his phone anyway?
Maybe she’s jealous?

I think she is

Have you mentioned it to him?
Or do you not want to mention it?

OP you might want to report your post and get it moved to relationships.

That’s really rude of him to be on his phone especially when it’s only date 4! I think as a best friend it’s normal to be exited for your bf and want to know every detail but yes both of them should wait until after the date to be discussing it.

Hi, we're moving this thread over to our Relationships topic.

I have told him but he can't understand why it makes me uncomfortable, she has a much older husband and I think she's been using my chap to talk to instead of him as a support, maybe she sees my chap as a replacement and is trying to undermine the relationship before it's even had a chance to get started ?

Why on earth would he tell you she said you look "homely"? She definitely sounds jealous and she also sounds like a bit of a bitch.

Are you sure she's not after him? I've been badly burnt on a few occasions by female "best friends." 😪

Always go with your gut!

Tread carefully.... she could end up being s right pain in the arse should you and your bff become serious. Female best friends that need a lot of support? Nah. No thanks. Plus describing you as homely is an insult in disguise.....

She probably has a crush on your bf. Either way shes massively over stepping the boundaries and If he cant see that id be seriously reconsidering my position !

How do you know she said you look homely?

He's sent a picture of me and she said I look 'homely'

How do you know? Did he bring it up in conversation? If so, he's a negging arsehole and he's the one you should stop seeing be angry with.

Thanks all you've confirmed how I was feeling I'm not coming second to any friend and yes I agree her comment is catty/bitchy

You're missing the fact that he had no reason to tell you that comment.

Telling you is designed to hurt you and to make you pissed off with his friend. He wants you to hate her, and he wants her to hate you, and he can enjoy the cat-fighting.

If he cared about you and a friend of his said that about you, he wouldn't tell you. He'd tell them to back off and he'd keep quiet about it because the only thing that comes out of telling you is pain and anger.

He's your problem, not her.

You may well be right Category 12 don't know why I hadn't thought of that !

I'd run far and fast away from this one OP.
He's too invested in this friend and you are not a priority.
Dump and run.
NEXT >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Thanks all for the advice I have told him it's bang out of order and he can do one! Now back to OLD for a replacement

Well done OP! Neither he nor his pathetic BFF sound very nice!! Good luck to them, not!!