Namechanged for this for obvious reasons.
My partner of 8.5 years is a taxi driver. I'm a taxi operator at the same company. We've both worked there for a number of years.
This morning, one of the ops called my partner, and I assumed she was trying to get him to come out on his day off to cover a job. He told me he needed to talk to me.
At 0530 this morning, someone called the office and told the operator that she'd been having an affair with my partner for the last 2 years. I've since listened to the call recording, and she asked for me by name, obviously hoping I was on duty.
My partner has confessed that about 18 months ago, he kissed her in the car when he was working. He said they'd been FB friends for a few years as he plays football with her partner. Apparently they used to chat on messenger about wrestling as they're both fans.
He took her in the car on this night, and she came on to him. Told him that her bf was being a prick and she wanted a kiss. He refused. She carried on, and he's told me they had a kiss, and a bit of a grope, and that's all. He said he was flattered as she's a bit younger than us, and nobody ever fancies him usually so he was shocked. Because what you usually do when you're shocked is stick your tongue in someone's mouth, obviously.
I feel like my world's caved in. We are one of those couples that make everyone sick because we're so happy. He's my best friend.
I'm scared there's more to come. I've been on MN for years and know The Script. I'm scared he's minimising. I've told him that he needs to tell me absolutely everything that's happened, because if anything further comes out, there'll be no return from it.
I just need advice. My head's battered. I'm not going to throw away a really happy long term relationship for a kiss... But it's not going to be all there is to it, is there? Let's face it, he's only confessed because his hand was forced.
I honestly genuinely believed I knew him well enough to know if he was lying, but he's been lying to my face for the last year and a half, so that's clearly nonsense.
Anyone that's been through this, how did you deal with it?
TIA and sorry this is so long.