How do I cope?

[Grumblina]

Found out that my fiancé of 3 years had cheated on me before Christmas. For weeks he has been treating me like shit. Calling me fat and boring etc. He has been emotionally abusing me for months, holding a knife to his throat if I said something he didn’t like Saying he would kill himself and it would be my fault. He has also disappeared whilst drinking heavily.

I finally got the strength to ask him to leave yesterday but I am an absolute wreck. I can’t stop crying and my whole body aches. I know I’ve done the right thing but I am barely functioning. Does this get better? Xx

As someone who has been there, it absolutely gets better and you'll realise how great life can actually be without someone like that in your life. Keep busy, meet friends, fall asleep with light comedy tv on in the background. You'll get there, it's hell at first, but you'll get there 💐

Wll done for finally getting shot. He sounds unhinged with all that knife to the throat business. It will be hard for a while, treat yourself well, as if you're recovering from an illness. Friends and family support can be invaluable. Keep posting here, too!

However bad you feel - DO NOT let this berk back into your life - his behaviour is unforgiveable and you deserve far better - and a peaceful life

I’m just sitting at my mums crying my eyes out. Work have been great thankfully and allowed me to get signed off as my mental health has really been suffering lately

@Grumblina, I am sorry to read your story. You could look at the thread started by @ASmallBoxofChocolateBunnies called ‘Some Friendly Words - Part 2 It’s Over’ where some of us are sharing how we feel about this situation following the breakdown of marriages due to affairs. Also look at the chumplady website:

www.chumplady.com/

Hope this helps. Take care.

Thank you il have a look

Yes it gets better. You're grieving your dreams of the future you thought you would have.

Www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

It’s just horrible. I feel like I just want to go to sleep and not wake up. I’m like a zombie

@SuperbMonkey do you have a link for the thread?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3731473-Some-friendly-words-part-2-Its-over

Hope this works @Grumblina.

Well done on getting rid OP.
Nothing we say will make you feel better right now but please know that hundreds of us on here have been through this and come out the other side.
Glad you are with family - family and friends will help you through this.
Take each day at time.
You won't be 'over this' any time soon so don't put any pressure on yourself about that.
If you can then eat little and often.
If you can't then keep hydrated and your sugar levels up.
Sugary tea and ice-lollies got me through the first few weeks.
Keep busy if you can.
Get out and about if you can.
But don't if you are not up to it!
You will get there.
We promise!
Big hugs - this bit is horrendous!

Have you told your Mum the WHOLE truth ?
If you were my daughter I would be wrapping you in cotton wool and making sure you KNOW that people who love you don't behave like this .

God you wonderful, strong, amazing woman! It hurts now but you will be able to be free, feel proper freedom for the first time in months. I really hope you start to see your worth and the pain goes away soon. Go listen to some Lizzo and get to the f@£k him stage. You’ve been through so much, now is your time xxxxxx

Thank you so much your replies have really helped me. My poor ds who is 13 has sat holding me as I sobbed loudly and uncontrollably tonight. I think I may have had a breakdown with the stress of it all.