Should I take his phone to him?

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OH phones me from work (works nights) all animated asking if he has left his mobile phone at home. He was phoning from the office and came across as overly excited - asked me to take his mobile phone to his work (10 miles distant).

He does have a mobile work phone which he can phone work numbers on and obviously 999.

He never calls me from work at night and I am now wondering what is so important that he needs his mobile phone that cant wait to morning..................

Should I take his phone in?

Maybe for social media useage?
What does he do? I'd want my phone but I guess it depends if he's busy all night ?

No, but can you have a look at what’s on it ? Without him knowing

Interesting. I'd be curious as to why it's so urgent. He can manage without it for one shift, surely?

It does seem a bit OTT.

Can you look through it? Have you had any doubts before?

Why would he need his phone when he's at work? Surely he'd only be able to use it when he's on a break so an hour max?
It would depend on how far away his work is and how much of an inconvenience it would be to get it to him.

He is really busy at night and doesnt need his phone because he has a work phone.
I am curious about the urgency and maybe will just keep an eye on it to see if there any any calls.....

Why look through it? Mumsnetters will be accusing of him having an affair before this thread gets to 10 posts.

His work is 10 miles and we have a pre schooler who I dont want to take out this time of night. He knows that, which makes me a bit suspicious why he wants it.

Don't you trust him?

For those that are suggesting that the OP is wrong for finding his request a bit suspicious, can you suggest why he would need his phone so badly, considering he has a work mobile, that he expects his wife to put their preschooler in a car and travel for ten miles at this time of night?

Meh, it depends on what he does. If he is operationally busy it’s curious and why not ask. If he isn’t busy and has long breaks I get it.

Most people cannot and should not use work phones for browsing, games or chatting and social media. The contact numbers on my work phone are completely different from my work phone. Most people don’t like to be without their phone. There could be a good group chat amongst friends on their.

If my DP asked me to take his phone I would ask why he needs it so urgently and if it can wait. If I couldn’t easily take it, I would. If not I would just say so. Don’t understand the not asking why he wants it.

Can’t see why the fuss except this is MN and I assume we have a revelation on the way.

It's weird

I'd just ask him, What's so bloody urgent ??

Really, just ask him

If he has no real reason then fuck no, I wouldn't be driving anywhere.

Thank you for your replies.
He would have left the office and be out for the night so I wont be taking it in.
I just feel a bit odd about it as he was really animated and sounded excitable about wanting to have his phone. Even when he had forgotten his reading glasses before he never called me to bring them in (he cant read without them) and bought a lot of paperwork home with him in the morning as he couldnt do it at work.

Your birthday or anniversary isn’t coming up, is it? I’m trying to think of a good excuse why he’d be worried that you’d see something on his phone.

No, wouldn't take his phone to him. I would also be wondering what is so urgent, but I suppose if he is working nights and there are quiet periods it might be his entertainment station. Does he play games on the phone?

No his gaming is minimal, sometimes goes on fbook but not an avid daily user.
T0tallyFuckedUpFamily thanks for looking at the positives!

I assume you can't access his phone, or you'd already have done that...

You could look for call or messages coming up on it, but if he's up so something then he's probably also called them from his work phone to let them know.

If my dh asked my to bring his phone, I'd just do it. I'd moan a lot about the trip and I'd tease him about it for ever, and we'd also have a pretty honest conversation about why it was so necessary for him to have it. If you can't have that kind of conversation...

Maybe he was just excited and wanted to see you it he may be a surprise thing. Doesn’t mean he’s cheating or doing anything dodgy. I would check the phone out though just to put your mind at rest!

I will be checking his phone... I use the sat nav from my phone everyday and not even for that I will make you bring the phone...

I'd be annoyed if I left my phone behind and I'm busy - I still manage to scroll twitter sometimes, or go on MN. It keeps me a bit sane! The night would feel a lot longer without it.

I don't think he's necessarily having an affair. Infact if there is anything suspect on the phone, he's been a bit of an idiot drawing your attention to it being with you without him!

I'd be annoyed if I left my phone at home too. I'd be even more annoyed if my DH thought he could have a good old nose at it.

Really odd of him!

Would I fuck be traipsing out at night on a twenty mile round trip with a tired toddler in tow to take some pillock something he forgot. He can bloody well learn not to forget it in future if it’s so important.

That's odd!

Would I fuck be traipsing out at night on a twenty mile round trip with a tired toddler in tow to take some pillock something he forgot. He can bloody well learn not to forget it in future if it’s so important.