Ex back in touch!! But why??!

[Frankie90]

I have been single 15 months, after a marriage breakdown! I have been quite happy and very busy with my 5 year old son!

Recently an ex from about 15 years ago has got in touch! We didn’t split on bad terms but were quite young! He got married last year. He told me he has always loved me, that I’m his ‘one’, that he’s never been happy with anyone else etc but I haven’t got a clue why he’s telling me that his now?! I’m confused!!

He wants a shag and is seeing if you’re willing.

^^

Mustard has it. Sadly it’s quite common.
He may have heard you are now single, his marriage may have hit a road bump and instead of doing the decent thing and working on it, he’s casting his net.

Be glad you are no longer together and block

His wife is probably pregnant and he's panicking.

He’s testing the water to see if you’re up for a side shag/ extramarital affair.

Maybe he means it but is doing the typical man thing of making sure before he leaves his wife even though he clearly doesn't want to be with her any more.

My ex-husband told a married woman he loved her, they both divorced their spouses and are still happily together 6 years later. There's a right person for everyone and it's not always the person you marry.

Proceed with caution, if you think it's worth it!

"Hell be back, they always come back."
Oh, ok, he didn't come back.

15 years later...

They always come back. 😱👻

He's looking for an easy shag. Probably bored of his wife or about to have a kid.

Don't go there. Big mistake if you do.

He got married just last year and you're confused?!!

Avoid like the bloody plague.

What Mustard said.

Yep excitment of the wedding has worn of, marriage is a bit boring and he is trying to sweet talk you into bed. B

I would be tempted to fuck with him by proclaiming your undying love, sending him links to wedding venues and suggested readings, whilst mentioning you've turned Christian and won't have sex outside marriage... but better to just delete and block.

Ex has heard you are young, free and single.

I agree, don’t do anything whilst he is still in his marriage. Even if he does decide to split, proceed slowly. It may be flattering to have him run after you, but doesn’t mean it’s the right path to go.

You're single and he's wondering if he can take advantage of that..if you might be interested in him, be very clear with him that you expect him to end his marriage and to take things with you very slowly .. chances are, he won't be up for that though, so don't get your hopes up!

2020yeah

When I separated many years ago - married men were falling out of trees trying to 'woo' me .,

the hills ........

His poor wife. Bet she doesn’t know what a loser he is.

I read something once about this phenomenon it's to do with their caveman brains, that they feel the need to compete amongst themselves to 'claim' the 'spare' woman ... charming! It's really annoying and you are best to just ignore them and get on with your life... relationships can and do sometimes start this way, but rarely

Do you think he's being sincere? Do you have feelings for him?

So a bit more info. He told me he’s been ill with cancer!

He started communication with me by messaging my best friend first to tell her he really misses me etc.

He then messaged me at Christmas! His messages just said I was the most beautiful person he’s ever met inside and out. That he’s never been happy since we split up and as much as he’s tried to move on I will always be his one! He sent me a song that we used to call our song and then just said I Just wanted you to know the above and always be happy!

I did wonder if he’s pouring his heart out in case something happens to him! But this makes me feel a bit sad!

He knows that I have morals and wouldn’t go near if he’s married! Not sure he’s after sex as he called my ex an absolute dickhead for cheating on me but who knows eh...

I would wish him well and shut the Conversation down.

As the others have said RUN a million miles. I've also experienced this weird phenomenon of being single following a break up and, what, giving off hormones that I'm up for grabs. What is it? Do they sniff it on you? Cancer or no cancer. His behaviour is really low. Don't go there, please. And don't fall for son stories. Please!! If he has cancer, it's his wife and nearest and dearest he should be leaning towards. Agree it sounds like he's a creep up for a shag. And will tell you his cancer is readon why he needs some secretive mucky affair. Sorry. But yuck.

Sob stories

Also 'beautiful inside and out'?? Has he been doing his research using Mills and Boon? Ugh. Lazy and cheesy

Sometimes facing your own mortality can change a person. Perhaps that’s what it’s been with him. He just wanted you to know. Nothing more.