For reference, when I refer to DH it is Dickhead Husband in my mind....
Has one got over an affair? I'm struggling so much but I don't want my marriage to be over.
DH had an emotional affair 2018. He did and said all the right things and even though I was no where near forgiving him, I was on the right track. I was 11 weeks pregnant when I found out.
We moved house and I said to him that if he wasn't happy, could he let me know so we can buy two separate houses etc but no, he was so happy and wanted to keep our family together.
Then after 12 weeks in our new home, and with a 10 week old baby, DH decides to start up another affair with a 22 year old whore at work... he's a terrible liar so found out so fast. During this time, he was offered an AMAZING job in his current organisation and would start beginning of Sept.
Once it all come out, it was apparently a mental breakdown (he does have a high stress job- dealing with child abuse and domestic violence). He reeled off a bunch of crap to family that he was stressed and I was cold towards him (I had a newborn and he had already cheated). He then lost his new job as he went of sick with stress (he was found out and worked with the whore so couldn't face her) and was put on shifts.
I now really resent him whenever he is out of the house as he works until 11pm and I have to deal with the kids. However, tonight I am raging... he is working New Year's Eve and I'm at home alone with the kids and it's all because he had an affair with a 22 year old whore....
All I all, I would love to LTB but I don't want to split our family, or sell our home ( or pay £18,000 to mortgage company)!
So much ramble