So.. What now???

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Cut long story short... Husband currently under arrest in police station in London. Not sure exactly what for but I have my suspicions it is drink driving. The police can not tell me what he is being charged with just that it is likely he will have to appear in court tomorrow?? Would you need to attend court that quickly for drink driving??? This is another of many incidents involving alcohol that he has dealt me and his family. Would I be unreasonable to give him his marching orders given that if he loses his license, he will loose his job and this would be his rock bottom??

Still no news on whereabouts of husband. Police has closed case because contact has been achieved and he is to them safe and well. I don't know where he supposedly is, how they made contact or anything. Ffs this is getting ridiculous

Oh no,so sorry to hear this. What a stressful start to the year for you.
I know he must be going through a lot himself, but to put you through all of this when you must be trying to hold it together for your children’s sake is so unfair of him.
It’s like he’s punishing you for telling him he wasn’t welcome back and you needed space.

He’ll be staying with a friend. He’ll be home on a few days once he’s exhausted his friends and their sofas.

You could text him to tell him about your dad and you that you would appreciate it if he could let you know that he is ok. Add that if you don’t hear from him you are going to start phoning round all his friends to locate him as that’s what the police suggested before they deal with this as a missing persons.

That should flush him out as he won’t want his shame to be common knowledge or the police coming round. He should text you then to confirm he is ok.

It’s more your Dad that I’m thinking about. Hopefully there will be good news about him soon from whatever tests they will be doing and he will make a full recovery.

Ffs.. How much more

As much as you allow.

Sorry very busy few days both emotionally and physically. My dad seems to be improving and suspicion of mini stroke ruled out thank god. With regards to husband, he has now left the family home. I am mid process sorting out legal issues etc and supporting him to access recovery workers etc. Told kids today who have taken it exceptionally well. It is a right fucking mess and the impact it has caused to so many people is hard to deal with. X x x

Sorry missed a bit out, he was eventually found after being missing 3 days hiding out in a shed

Sounds like progress OP. That’s good

Thanks elieza. Long journey ahead. Strangly enough I feel more relaxed in my. Own home with just me and the kids than I have done In a long time.

Glad you feel relaxed! You need to do what’s best for you, if you are happy the kids will be too.

You will probably go through phases of missing him, just remember it is normal and it will pass. There’s always someone here to have a chat to if you need it XX

@hawaiianturtle rtft

Op I'm sorry you're having to deal with this but your kids are doing well and are safe and you sound happier already. You're doing amazingly