i hit my h and he hit back

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but i'm finding it hard to forgive him even tho i hit first. any opinions?

don't forgive him

does he forgive you?

have a glass of wine. followed by lots of chocolate

This is a hard one

No man should ever hit a woman

No woman should hit a man

Maybe take a hard look at your relationship, i think you were both out of order.

Have you done it before?

Yeah, I've got an opinion. Don't hit him.
You hit him, he retaliated and you can't forgive? I think you should apologise to him first of all, and invite him to apologise in return. And then the 2 of you need to address whatever is going wrong in your relationship that you think lashing out at each other is ok.

I agree with mytwopenceworth, luckily she worded it a lot better than I would.

Did you hit hard? Did he hit back as hard, or harder?

don't forgive him, don't stick around until he forgives you, when it has escalated to fisticuffs it is time to end it.

I don't agree-Escape!

i dont agree either.

if you can work past this then you could still recover your relationship.

maybe you both need anger managment, a bit of extra help. you should never resort to hitting each other.

About 8 years ago I had depression and lashed out at my husband-then boyfriend-a few times.He never hit me back and was completely humiliated by it but we worked it out that he was very good at verbal abuse and the only way, at that point of my life, I knew how to attack him back was physically.
I have NEVER done it since and doubt I ever will again-but at that point in time, I was extremely suprised that he DIDN'T hit back. You need to look at what the underlying problem is!

If this was a man posting we'd be baying that his partner hit back in self defence. It's just not ok to hit your partner, regardless of your own gender. Her partner will never trust her not to revert to violence again.

Mine does!

And you are absolutely right that it is NOT ok to hit out-I'm certainly not justifying that behaviour.

we havent said its ok to hit, he hit her in self defence yes. but do they want to recover rerlationship or end it completely?

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Neither of you should have done it. Do you often have problems with anger and do you think that you need to get some help to resolve it if you do?

Agree with MyTwoPenceWorth.

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Have done a search, there are underlying problems. IMO

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