Bit of background on me and DH - met and married very quickly, have now been married for a year. 15 year age gap. I've had a few serious relationships and his last serious relationship was 10 years ago.
Our relationship up until now
At the start he lied about his debt, and has lied about paying bills. Throughout the relationship I've struggled with his past (he's slept with up to 150 women), the lack of intimacy (he wants sex twice a month and doesn't like day to day PDA), and his obsession with his job.
In the summer he started a new job which promised better money (6 figures) and no additional travel. The job role has changed and he is traveling at least one night a week, works late a couple of nights a week, and I don't have access to his bank accounts re the additional money. He now showers once a week, doesn't want to go out in evenings/at weekends, never does hobbies and wakes up a couple of hours every night with insomnia. He has told me he would choose his new role over our marriage, and his only other option was to go on benefits. 10 days ago I discovered that his Christmas plans had changed, and instead of being able to "work from home" over the 10 day festive period, he would likely have to be in the office every day except 25th and 26th, and would potentially also have a business trip. I was a bit blindsided and sad (stated my disappointment and asked if he could try and have more time at home). He could not understand why, and said if it were the other way round he'd not be bothered and instead say "what can I do to support you?".
How the ghosting happened
A week ago today he was planning to go in to work late and I asked if we could have sex before he left at 10am. I woke up at 9am to him putting his coat on, and am ashamed to say I got upset at being rejected for the 100th time. No shouting, swearing or name calling, but I asked why he often tried to weasel out of sex, asked him why he hardly ever wanted to be intimate with me, and asked him why he was able to so easily sleep with over 100 women but not his wife. He tried leaving and I stood in front of the door (abusive, I know), he pushed me out of the way and left. When he got to work he messaged me saying we're not a relationship, and said I need to work on my anger issues. I tried messaging him apologies throughout the day, letting him know I was going to get therapy (we have just moved/sorted out private healthcare after a 2 month delay in his end, and I had registered with my GP to deal with my emotional regulation and anxious attachment issues). He kept telling me he didn't know what to do and needed space for the night.
The next day (Friday) I asked if I could come home and if we could make a go of things. No response. I went to the apartment to get some more clothes and he was there. He told me we are broken because of me alone, he doesn't know if we can be fixed, doesn't know if he wants to be with me anymore, and doesn't care if I get professional help. He couldn't tell me if we'd be together at Christmas or whether I still lived at the apartment. He gave me no prior warning, never sat me down to tell me my reactions to his actions were upsetting him. Never gave me a chance to fix the relationship. He told me he needed the weekend alone, so I packed a small suitcase and left. We had no contact for 4 days until I sent him a simple, no pressure email along the lines of "are you dropping a hint or do you need a bit more space?" No reply. I have access to his debit card, Netflix and Amazon still, which makes it all even more strange...
I've realised how toxic our relationship is and how rejected and unheard I feel on a daily basis, so arranged to have my things collected from the flat this Friday and messaged him last night to let him know... And he'd blocked me.
I'm now in a situation where, instead of discussing our issues or emailing me and saying he wants a divorce, I have been ghosted by my husband. I suppose what I'm asking is what the hell do I do next? Both of our names are on the lease, all of my belongings are there. I can't get divorced for 2 years and now have nowhere to live and no job (yep, he told me I could leave my job 9 months ago).
Tl;Dr DH asked for space a week ago, has subsequently blocked me and ignored any attempt at communication. My belongings are at our apartment. What do I do?