Is he manipulating me? It's my birthday and I'm so upset.

[ashleytt]

I've been seeing him for 5 months now.
I have strong feelings for him.
He text me last night
"Ok something has happened "
"It's going to make you go off it"
I asked him after 2 mins
"What's wrong"
He replied .."it's ok I've sorted the problem"
I asked him what has happened here ?
He said "drop it"
This morning he's being weird with me..
I say "look it's my birthday she Xmas and you have my stomach in knots"
"Can you please tell me what has happened ?"
He replied ..
"I don't know what your talking about,your acting silly"
I said "last night you said something had happened,that I would be upset about"
He's read it and ignored me..
What on earth ?

OP you've posted about this a lot over the past few months. You seriously need to tell him to fuck off and seek professional help. not according to advance search she hasn’t.

OP I would lay money on the likelihood that he’s seeing someone else and that text was meant for her but was sent to you by mistake.

I would text him back and say “ah, no worries, I know what it was now,” and then move on with your life while he squirms wondering what you know and how .

Do you really believe this is all you deserve?

Give yourself a great Xmas and New Year present by dumping and blocking him! Really all that drama won't do anyone any good! Find someone who you deserve not some twat that plays mind games!

OP what do you want from this thread? What do you want for your future?
You don't seem to be able to hear it when people say you should walk away. No one here can fix him and turn him into a handsome prince for you. There isn't any magical insight that will make all of his behaviour suddenly ok.

He's a dick. If you stay with him you should know you are choosing to stay with a dick who has your head all over the place, makes you anxious, and has you posting online about how confused you feel.

Please, please, please dump this MF.
I had 17 yrs of this, then I had a nervous breakdown.
This was in the 70's 80's.
No advice to go to then.
DUMP HIM NOW.
HE WANTS YOU TO BE ANXIOUS.
HE IS CONTROLLING YOU.
LEAVE.

Oh he's an absolute twat. Dump and run and don't waste one more second thinking about the jerk.

I agree with the PPs.
Please put yourself first.

Buy yourself lovely perhaps flowers or something that will make you smile.
Happy birthday x

You are encouraging this behaviour by pandering to him. You do know he's only doing it to make you anxious don't you? I guarantee NOTHING happened, he made it all up. You need to increase your self worth.

Is he spending your birthday with you? Has he given you a present?

I think the OP knows she she needs to dump this twat, but he's so under her skin she's struggling. But you need to just do it. Sooner rather than later. It will only get worse and will escalate. Good luck.

He wants you to be thinking of him and worrying.

Dump the prick.

He’s an oxygen thief. Get rid.

I think the text was for another woman. It would have made sense to her.

why are you allowing this cretin to treat you so badly OP ? what is wrong with you ? this guy cares not a fig about you.. find your self respect and ditch him..

Dickhead alert.

Dump or you are opening yourself up for so much teenage style angst.

Decide you aren't a drama llama like him and remove yourself from the situation!

Ok so I feel like a idiot
I got back home and a bouquet of flowers had arrived for me next door from him
I text him and he said
He had forgot to order them in time last night and thought I would be mad
Then he realised he had till 6 pm so had time
He said he didn't want to say because it would have spoilt the surprise
So all of the worry and angst for nothing
I feel stupid

You need out of this relationship as an internet stranger I can say if you were my friend I would be very worried about you

Please google 'lovebombing'.

... yeah that sounds like bullshit covering for him sending a message that was actually about something else. Keeping you on your toes isn't he? Clever boy.

He's still a knob. Thecinitial message was unnecessary.
And you seem totally stressed out and analysing stuff. That's not healthy.

Do yourselves a favour and separate..

wow - took him a long time to come up with that excuse!

If it was true, he need only have texted back, 'sorry, thought I'd messed up something re your birthday, but I haven't.'

Unless you WANT to be with someone who messes with your head, get rid of him.

And please don't tell him how anxious he makes you - he already knows, and he'll get an extra hit of his jollies every time you do it.

Why didn't he just say he thought he'd mucked up your present when you asked him?

Either he's not bothered about how you're feeling or he's unable to realise how him dismissing/ignoring you like that is not on.

Present or no present; Make it clear that he can't treat you like that, don't fall over yourself apologising!

@ashleytt
Do you believe he is telling the truth? Step back and be honest - do you think so?

This sounds like the poster that got banned off here for constant similar threads

I think I want to believe it's the truth so I have a nice birthday /Xmas