I split from a miserable 15 year car crash relationship a year and a half ago. Had a rebound with someone I first met in the summer. We meet through our mutual children who became friends (yes, i know. Not great). It was v fun and gave me what I needed to put distance with my ex. I finally feel we can genuinely focus on the kids, without my emotions getting in the way. So has been such a turning point for me. The rebound made clear he was not available. It was abruptly said, in a curt message. But was good he said it. I was honest and said that i didn't want to carry on as I thought it would begin to mess with my head. Should have been simple and clear cut, right? Nice and adult? But he says he wants to carry on meeting as friends for the kids. I honestly don't think this is a major friendship for the kids. Yes, they like each other. But it's not a really important friendship. I suspect he wants to keep me on the backburner, in case nothing else comes along. Feel annoyed. Just a minor vent. Why are some men such predatory wanker? Am obviously still vulnerable after my brutal car crash split from ex