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Would this piss anyone else off or am I just being a moody cow!?!?

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christmasstress · 21/12/2019 13:46

My DP of four years came over to mine last night. I've just got a new bed and bedding. He sleeps with one pillow, I always have two. He got into bed and immediately began to main that he couldn't possibly sleep with it, it's no good and too low. I suggest he tried to exchange it with one of mine but still no good. He was getting stroppy saying 'he won't get any sleep' and then takes one of mine and says two is much better. Then said he couldn't possibly sleep just with the one to which I said great now I won't get any sleep, after which he told me to 'not be funny with him'. I had a shit nights sleep, woke up with a crick in my neck began to wonder why his comfort matters so much more than mine!!

I know it is beyond irritating to have a pillow that isn't right but it felt so much like as long as he was comfy all was good and I could suffer!

Am I just being a petty cow?!?!

OP posts:
averythinline · 21/12/2019 18:39

personnally i would give him teh £60 back and properly dump him this time... you sound so positive about new bedding /college etc and he's just bringing you down...

alternatively make one of the presents joint and other just from you...

christmasstress · 21/12/2019 18:42

The more I think about it, The more shocking it seems! I would never dream of behaving like that! It's so entitled.

When we lived together he had to take antibiotics for an infection. Because he needed to take them an hour before food, and he couldn't possibly move his six AM breakfast, for five days he woke at five AM to take them. Everyday he would set an alarm, put the light on, pour a glass of juice from a bottle by the bed, go for a wee, get back in bed and get comfy then turn the light off. EVERY DAY!!!!!! AT FIVE IN THE MORNING!!!!!

Then he told me I'd 'tutted' at him on morning five!!!! what the fuck?!?!?

I am clearly insane aren't I!

OP posts:
SexIsAProtectedCharacteristic · 21/12/2019 18:45

I am clearly insane aren't I!

Yes. Give yourself an early Xmas present and bin his selfish, mean, controlling arse.

aroundtheworldyet · 21/12/2019 18:58

God just leave please
I mean you’ll leave eventually. But just try not to prolong this anymore it sounds like torture

TopOftheNaughtyList · 21/12/2019 19:01

If your 'D'P comes over again tonight then give him the third pillow too. But instead of putting it under his head, place it firmly on top of his face!!

Just kidding, but do think seriously about properly leaving this controlling waste of space. This is not a healthy relationship OP.

user1499165682 · 21/12/2019 20:01

Oh my goodness! I stand by my first reply...proper twat!!

Hope you still have your receipt for his Christmas present...the only thing he should be getting for Christmas is dumped 🤦‍♀️🤣

EKGEMS · 21/12/2019 22:15

I'd have used all the pillows. Over his face.

onanothertrain · 21/12/2019 23:20

Fucking really? It's pillows, if you're pissed off by that then leave.

christmasstress · 21/12/2019 23:30

@onanothertrain - do you think I was being silly and petty then? All opinions welcomed.

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SurfingGiantess · 22/12/2019 00:00

I think you know what to do.
3 posts on him in the last 2 months and everyone advising you to leave him. He's a mean horrible person.
Just for reference if that situation happened here my OH would give me all the pillows I wanted just so I could be comfy.
You can't change him but you can stop letting him treat you like his personal slave.

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