Ok so here goes, I’ve been with my wife for 20 years married for nearly 15 years. We have had our ups and downs over the years. The last several have not been the greatest of times together my wife told me twice she was no longer in love with me a few years ago but we worked through that and she said it was a mistake and that she did love me. Our sex life over the years has diminished but now we no longer sleep together I’m on the sofa and she has the bed ( been like this for 2 years now). We made love once this year and probably over the last few years I could count on one hand. I’ve tried to talk I buy her flowers, chocolates do the ironing, cooking tell her I love her give her space but she just doesn’t seem to have or want any intimacy at all. It’s breaking my heart I feel sick inside and so lonely, I’ve been there when she needs me but I just don’t know what else to do. I’ve asked if she loves me and she has said yes but words mean nothing without any actions. She doesn’t kiss unless I kiss her she won’t cuddle hold hands snuggle on the sofa and if I even try and get near I feel rejected time after time. I’ve just said to her about I’m worried about our relationship and she will never talk about it because it’s either the wrong time or she’s not going over this again and says why can’t I just leave it instead of keep poking and poking. I said because I want to sort this then she gets a message on fb and conversation ends. I don’t want this to end but I feel so lonely and I really don’t think my wife wants me as a husband but more of a...... well I really don’t know what I am to her. So I’m asking you ladies what am I doing wrong am I pushing too much for answers? Should I back off and not talk about it? Does she really love me even though she says she does because I’m running on empty and have no idea