HI! Just need a vent...
We don't have any children, early 30s, been together a couple of years. I'm getting fed up because my DP is getting more and more envious when I have a work trip. We cannot afford to go to abroad much - once-twice per year somewhere close to our country only. But my job demands me to go abroad sometimes. Once per year is mandatory, but during the last two years I have gained more opportunities to go on more trips. On the one hand I could say I won't attend, but on the other hand I want to - not so much for the travelling part, but it is more related to gaining confidence in my self, trying new things solo and developing myself professionally. But of course, the travelling part is nice too. These aren't easy for me either - I have to prepare presentations and present these, communicate with strangers from foreign countries, which is extremely difficult for me. But it is getting more and more easier. This is why I want to attend those trips!
However, my DP doesn't have such opportunities at his job and he is expressing more and more envy whenever I tell him I have a trip again. It's like 3 trips per year now (each 3-4 days). It's really annoying. I know he would like to travel, but there is not much I can do. Instead of dealing with his envy, I would actually need support, because emotionally these aren't easy for me and I take these as opportunities to grow. I think he only sees those as fun trips to foreign countries, sipping cocktails and just laying around. Although he has seen the hard work I have put in before the trips.
To be honest, yes I could tell him to keep his envy to himself or I could deal with it. BUT I'm actually so bothered that my own partner envies me!
He say "Well I have to start saving money to have a trip also". I'm like, well start already, he hasn't put penny aside to have a trip, he just envies me.