First time posting, just joined Mumsnet.
A little at the end of my tether with my husband!
I just feel he cba helping out around the house. When he does it's oh I've done this, you can't be bothered. Blah blah.
He'll pile up his dirty washing in the bedroom by the bed or on the landing despite many many times of me asking him to use the wash basket in the other room. He doesn't do 'cleaning toilets'. (Cleaned them twice in two years) and I'm sick of harping on about it all. Instead I'm met with ' why haven't you done it, why don't you do it, oh so and so has been like that for days so why haven't YOU done it.
Hardly ever takes any initiative himself. I come home from work around 18-18:30 when I'm on earlies and if it's a bin day the next morning, they're never out (he gets home before me).I put them out. I, then rush into the kitchen and start cooking, couple of hours spent in there. Then by the time I come and sit down it's my toddlers bedtime. No time spent with him. 
. Oh and then I finally get a chance to get out of my uniform. Might I add he's usually asleep on the sofa after work. (Toddler not alone, his grandma looks after him)
Dishes left around, nappies from changing the little one left piling up they don't get taken to the bin unless I ask. He'll point out this needs washing or it needs hoovering/brushing in here but won't get up and do it. I work full time and so does he but it feels like it's some kind of competition as to who works harder all the time.
We just had a to do over the frikkin sofa throw. Which he or the toddler dropped tea all over and he's sat with it over him. As soon as I came to sit under it and my toddler is chewing it he's screaming 'its dirty, it's dirty' needs a wash so I've just said well effing go put it in the washing machine then!l, why are you telling me!
I've asked him 3 times this week to please get some eggs. Not materialised.
If toddler wets the bed, he'll pull off the sheet but then not replace it later. But then God forbid if me or his mum leave it off to air the mattress all hell frikkin breaks loose.
Is it too much to ask that we share the household jobs 50/50?!
It's making me hate him and I'm finding it really hard to love him atm. I don't want him near me and I don't think I'd actually care if he just left. I just switch off when he speaks to me, because I can't be bothered even talking to him. I just don't have the energy to listen to his crap. Our little one is two and half and he probably sees us bickering all the time. I really don't want him to see us like this and grow up thinking it's normal behaviour.
How do I get my partner to just grow up and pull his weight? I more or less work 10 hour shifts and he works 8. I get he's tired as he's up early but so am I.
This ain't even the half of it. 
Sorry, just needed to rant!!!