Any argument DH uses this against Me.

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DH doesn't help around the House, or with the DCs either. Granted he works 5 days a week and I only work 3, but my days are full on with a Toddler and I'm also currently 4 Months pregnant. I do everything in the House and for the DC, no exaggeration when I say everything.
Tonight I asked if he could help around the House more (at all!) and was met with the usual tirade of verbal abuse, but the same phrase came up that he has thrown at me since DC was born "Well you could work full time and I'll stay at home having fun with DC instead"
He earns double what I would but therefore feels that makes him entitled to be spiteful anytime I ask for a little support, if we were to switch 'roles' as such we would barely be able to afford our Mortgage let alone any other outgoings.
Feeling so down and fed up, reading back what I've written I know how much of an idiot I sound but all I genuinely asked for was a little help around the House occasionally, and now I'm in tears alone upstairs after being shouted at.. Should never has asked. Meh!

Of course he understands its unfair that you're doing all the house work, he just doesn't care. Each time you ask for help he verbally abuses you until you stop asking. This isn't a loving, caring partnership. He sees you as being beneath him and this won't change. You deserve better, your children deserve a better role model. How are you going to manage when your baby is born? Will he step up and help around the house when you're shattered with a newborn and a toddler? I doubt it. The resentment at having to do it all will grow and feel horrible. It's honestly easier as a single parent having to do it all than being with a partner who constantly lets you down and doesn't care that you're run ragged. If it were me I'd go for the promotion with the view of leaving the relationship.

Great post fromwhereyouleftit. I have been in your situation and am now divorced. What I couldn't see at the time ( but I can in hindsight) was that the housework split was a symptom of his selfish attitude and total disregard for me as a person. I wish I had seen the seriousness of that at a much earlier stage and been prepared to walk away rather than assuming that it was a stand alone problem that he had and I could fix if I just found the right approach.

Don't put yourself in the situation of holding your career back because he won't do his share. Does he ever support you in developing your career or doing things for yourself ( and I don't mean grudgingly looking after the children as a one off, but active support like it's important to him that you are happy).

How do you handle disagreement....if you find he always gets his own way or if he almost prides himself on being very stubborn these would be big red flags.

My exP was the same, so I left him. Not only was I being worked into the ground, I also didn't want my kids growing up seeing how things were and thinking it was normal.

He's extremely selfish, and your life would be easier without him in so many ways.

I have never looked back.

Tell him that by staying at home with the children you are saving him approximately £1,500 a month in nursery fees, so where the fuck is your consideration?

Cunt.