I’m so happy to be single this Christmas.

[Gonewiththemadness]

That’s it.
I don’t want to say it in real life (although I’m sure it shows) as it’s just not very kind but I just wanted to get it out into the world somewhere.
I wish my ex partner happiness and a contented life but I am so glad I’m no longer a part of it.
After almost 4 years together and now 4 months single I am feeling the best I think I ever have.
I have been working on myself for a long time but I feel like I’ve been able to focus on myself properly lately and It finally feels good just to be me! (Feels strange to even say that!)
I have a job I started 3 months ago that I absolutely love. We have a happier home and we have family and friends coming over for Christmas and I can’t wait!
I have spoiled my DC without being under scrutiny over every little thing, the atmosphere in my home is warm and people enjoy coming over again.
Isn’t it funny how much can change in just one year. This time last year I was in the lowest place and it just got worse into 2019. I feel like the year is ending with me being in the best place I’ve ever been.
I will appreciate it all.
I hope this doesn’t come across as arrogant and nasty, it is not my intention. It’s just nice to have somewhere to share the happiness I feel right now.

It doesn't come across as arrogant at all. I hope you and your DC have a brilliant and peaceful Christmas.

You sound happy, hope you all have a very Merry Christmas.

Glad to hear that. Have a lovely Christmas.

Lovely post. So important to enjoy the good times when they come. Happy Christmas x

Not unreasonable at all! I wonder why you got the vote buttons when the thread is in relationships?
Missing the point entirely.

Well done! You deserve it 💖

Me too. I am recognising every day more and more of my true self,and feeling something that I now remember is happiness. Glad you are feeling it too OP

Thank you all, and a merry Christmas to everyone else too!
@Hollycumpooster I’m not sure, I didn’t add it in!

Ah, you sound so happy and content! I feel the same each and every day and it’s coming up to 5 years since I left. It’s a feeling of power and of peace all at once

So, so pleased for you. And I mean it. I know that feeling, I have it too

Oh flipping heck that was supposed to be a smiley face after the merry Christmas!

Hear hear OP. 4 years in and I'm far stronger than I ever dared to believe I could be.
I'm so happy not to be living in a joyless, sexless sham of a marriage. I have worked so hard to let go of the old co-dependent me. It's paying off.

We're the centre of our children's worlds and we bloody matter. Our contentment is paramount.

Bravo you

That's lovely to hear. Thanks for sharing. I won't be spending Christmas with my children this year, post separation. But I'm feeling ok with it because I'll see them boxing day and I don't have to spend another awkward, painful Christmas with my ex and his family.

OP I’m not a Christmas person
But this a heart warming Christmas thread! I hope you have a wonderful time

I hope the poster who started the current 'how to tell my boss?" post reads this and realises this could be her next Christmas! Lovely uplifting post.

Nutbutterz I mean you, good luck to you both.

Really pleased for you. You can relax and enjoy without friction. I am entirely on my own and, apart from when I first wake up and miss the piles of presents it is fun! I pick what I like to eat (Lobster usually) fruit, cheeses and, perhaps a naughtily pudding and thoroughly enjoy myself. Jolly good luck.

So glad that this has been such a positive change for you. You’ve got a great attitude. Give yourself credit for being open and aware of all these good things that have happened and also for getting through the tough times. Enjoy your contentment - you deserve it!

@Spritesobright sorry to hear you won’t spend Christmas Day with them but I hope you all have a fabulous Christmas on Boxing Day
And thank you to everybody and a merry Christmas to you all
@nutbuttuerz I saw your post too and I wish you good luck going into the new year, you can do it!

Thank you. I'm recently separated and the hoovering has started, using Christmas and the kids to guilt trip me. It's so hard. But do I want to spend Christmas monitoring what the children eat or what the hell he's looking at on his phone THIS time? No thanks. Pass me the chocolates!

Good for you and so glad you're feeling so buoyant. A bad relationship is like wearing a lead coat isn't it and once you get rid of it you feel light as a kite!

There was a thread last year on the benefits of being single at Christmas (or something similar). I love being single. This will be my second one as completely without any romantic or fwb relationship. I am much happier single. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas!

Wonderful thread.wishing you and yours the very best.

Have a great Christmas making happy memories 🎄

I'm so very happy for you but slightly gutted as I thought this would be a thread about seasonal flirting and shagging, though you may also be partaking so crack on and enjoy!