Post affair. Mine

[Notallitseemstobe]

I think my marriage is over, I don't feel what I should feel towards him and I have the ick.

But I'm scared. Scared of financially standing on my own two feet. Scared of being alone, I have no family of my own except two children, and scared I'm a fat 46 year old who will never find love again.

I had an affair, it's ended, not by me. And I realise it was keeping me from having to make the hard choices, whether to stay or go. I can feel a pull to fill the void he has left, try to distract myself once again from sorting out what I want.

I don't want to cheat again, but it means I will probably pull my family apart and I'm scared.

I'm not after pity, I'm trying to do the right thing. How can I?

I can do this, for both me and my DH.
wow how heroic of you, be sure to blame it all on him and dont bother to mention your affair to make sure you remain as the innocent.

I stopped having sex with my DH, because emotionally I couldn't handle it. And he is the one who suggested separation first, and I should have agreed.
But you could handle banging someone else whilst making him suffer.

I had the affair because I thought it would keep my marriage together
Aaaaahahahahahahahahahahaha haahahahahahahahahahaha ahhh. Ahaha. Haha. Ha. Aah. Good one.
I also "take one (or several) for the team" and have secret affair sex with other men behind my husband's back, you know, for the sake of my marriage. For a while we struggled, but as soon as I started lying, sneaking out, withdrawing physical affection from him, and falling in love with someone else, not to mention sharing stds and risking pregnancy, it really solved all of our marriage problems. I hope he's grateful for my efforts. Even though I won't tell him - for his own sake obvs, he's my top priority! Except someone else's cock, of course.

The one thing you can always try to do in a relationship, even if it is failing, is to treat the other one with respect. You've prioritized your wants over his right to be treated as a partner and an equal. You're justifying deceiving him, using him until you get all your ducks lined up and do whatever suits you best.

Yes, let him go, it really isn't a healthy relationship.

To be honest, I never set out to have an affair. I was going to have a one off fling with someone

Hahahahahahahahahahaha - oh my goodness.

I really do worry for my son that there are women (and men with regard to my daughter) out there like you.