Positive heartbreak stories

[sadladytoday]

Going no contact for this I am a long time poster. Looks like there hasn't been one of these for a while and I really need some hope!

Long story short... broke up with long term partner in September (11 years no kids)

Found out today from a mutual friend he has a new girlfriend already!!!

I'm heartbroken, feel like I meant nothing to him... he cheated on me at times during relationship.... why does he get to be happy within 2 MONTHS, and I'm left feeling lonely, like the world has finished with no hope.
I can't stand him anymore after all this and never in a million years would I want a miserable life with him but what I need is stories of happiness after all consuming "never gonna be happy again" decent men don't exist break ups please!

Thank youuu!!

You are better off without him. He is on the rebound. He will probably cheat on her.
You are free. You may meet someone new or you might be happy on your own. Who knows.

It will take months but one day you will find that the sun is shining, spring is in the air and all is well in your world, which wouldn't be the case if you were still with your ex.

Even if it doesn't feel like it now, even if you can only remember the good times and the pain, it will get better.

Live your life for you.

(I'm in the same boat)

It’s so hard isn’t it. I’m in a similar sad boat to you. It’s so hard to imagine another more positive alternative. I remember breaking up with someone and thinking there’d never be anyone else like him ever again - but there was (who I’ve recently broken up with and am pretty heartbroken) I guess it’s about perspective. It feels so bad now, but in a years time it will probably feel so different. And there will be other, special people. Keep your eyes on the big picture and try to get through each day as it comes (will try and follow my own advice!!!)

Thanks ladies. Sorry to hear you're both going through the same (comforting too)

Only a month ago he was telling me he loved me which makes it all the worse. I just want to be over it and happy... tired of feeling sad and bitter that he's happy?! How is that karma!

I left my emotionally abusive ex 4 years ago. He told me he was devastated. Spoke to all my friends and family trying to persuade them I was making a mistake etc. I believed he was heartbroken from his words and actions.
He met someone within a month of me leaving and has since married her. Whereas I have stayed by myself for the most part.
To be honest I just feel sorry for her. I was surprised when I found out, that’s all. He was a convincing liar. She’s very very welcome to him. You just carry on concentrating on yourself. That’s what I do.

Sorry to hear that, but sounds like you're better of without him and like you say, lucky escape!!

Any stories from anybody who met the love of their life after a hideous breakup and lived to tell the happy tale??

My relationship ended when I was beaten up by him.
To say that the breakup hit me hard is no joke, I had no idea he was like that. I had been completely fooled.

I got through it by concentrating on just getting through each day. I blocked him on all SM, but despite being together for years, he has not to my knowledge made any effort to find out if I am even alive.

All I can do is just think that he did make me happy for some of that time but that I am better off without him.

@SkinnyEx sorry to read that, that's awful. Well done on being so strong after leaving though ❤️

Hopefully some ladies will be along to tell us all how they met the true loves of their lives after falling for an ahole the first time round!

he cheated on me at times during relationship....

Do some work on your boundaries, so the FIRST time someone cheats on you is the last, and you'll make your own happiness.

It was once I found out!

Years ago I was broken hearted and a friend persuaded me to go to the gym. I joined a gym class that was twice a week and because I was so thin the results were starting to show after 3 classes.

You will meet someone else OP, when you least expect it. Have a look at on line dating to see what's out there, take up every opportunity to socialise over the festive season, be prepared for enjoying yourself.
You may well be loved up by Valentine's Day.

Thanks @MikeUniformMike just struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel... just feel so sad.. been in bed in the dark since 6.30. Just want to feel happy again!

No hope out there ladies?

It sounds like you want stories about women finding new men. But you need to find happiness without men. Spend time with friends and family. Take up new hobbies etc

Ok I'll bite. Last year my STBXH left me in his midlife crisis catastrophe. I was in utter shock and thought my world was falling apart. We had been together 15 years and had 2 DC. I loved him immensely and when I found out he'd been having an affair it was unbearable.
Friends encouraged me to do OLD just to distract myself. So I did. I just wanted a fling but on my 6th date I hit it off with someone.
It had its bumps at the beginning but has evolved into an amazing relationship now which is much more honest, equal and vulnerable than anything I've experienced before. I don't think I would've been able to appreciate my new partner without the previous heartbreak.

@Spritesobright thank you! Great story... just after a bit of hope!

@Jane1978xx I'm capable of being alone and in no rush to jump into a relationship, wanting to heal from this one first but heartbroken and would like to think I will be happy again and for me personally, that involves a partner and a family. My own personal wants from life, each to their own hey :)

Hi Op
Yes I have hope!

My husband left me for a way younger woman after 21 years. I had never even been with another man and was completely distraught. I couldn't imagine being ready to find someone never mind actually finding someone for at least a year - all while he was apparently happily shacked up with his new woman.

Fast forward two more years, I am with the most amazing man. My confidence is better than it ever was before, I lost 20lbs and enjoy dressing like a bombshell. My new man (now 18 months in) treats me incredibly well and I am having the best sex of my life. I had thought my husband was the love of my life, and perhaps he was one of them.... but this man is making me wayyyyy happier. 😊

Oh, and in addition, my salary has almost doubled since he left, making up for the financial loss.

My ExH is still with his woman, but it is a very up and down relationship, and he has developed serious health problems that they both struggle to deal with (which I do regret deeply, as he is my child's father - but mention to make the point that you never know what is around the corner).

I am sure you will get back on your feet and yes, most definitely, there is happiness out there waiting when you are ready to find it.

Good luck!

After 6 years with a guy he showed up one day at my door to tell me he'd met someone else. Just like that, he was gone, out of my life and into someone else's. To be honest it took me a couple of years to deal with the shock and betrayal of it. But now I look back and see we were completely wrong for eachother. I'm now with a much better man, who's a wonderful husband and father to our kids. It might seem like the end of the world now, but some day hopefully you'll realise it was the beginning of much better things to come

I had a couple of horrific break ups and was soooo done. Stayed single for a couple of years and then found the love of my life and we're now happily married with 2 dc.

As cliche as it is, time really does heal. Stay strong. You'll get through this xx

I was utterly heartbroken when my ex and I broke up (6 years go). We'd been very close friends since school but during our early 20s we realised it went deeper than that. Made the decision to be together which upset a lot of our friends (my ex from school was a close friend of his ... said ex cheated on me and treated me horribly/ we'd been split up a while) so I felt like by deciding to actually give a relationship a go we were making a massive decision / commitment ... it wasn't something either of us did lightly. Eventually after we moved house and our baby was born (some time later) he decided actually it wasn't for him and left. New gf within a few months history completely rewritten the usual tales. I was suddenly a single parent and utterly heartbroken. I remember thinking id hit rock bottom. But every day I got up and the world was still spinning. It didn't kill me (felt like it might when he first left)

A few years later I met my now DH quite by accident. One of those really small decisions you make with no idea how much it will change your life! Now we're happily married
He's an amazing step dad to my eldest and we have 2 kids of our own (youngest is just 3 weeks old)

Currently going through it OP. Heartbroken and lost and struggling to see a way forward.

This is his problem not yours he obviously cheats as he feels inadequate about himself in some way, so when he has women paying him attention makes him feel better about himself.
He will cheat on her too, if he cheated on you more than one he's a serial cheater likes the feeling of a new exciting relationship. Then when that wears off will look for someone else to cheat with. Start to make yourself feel happy. Think of all the rubbish times he put you through and how much better off you are now. Find some new hobbies maybe. Join the gym, go out with friends. Keep yourself busy. Learn to love yourself again and realise you are the lucky one not her. You got rid of him. Now she's putting up with all the shit you had too. What a lucky escape you have had. I have been in your shoes I am so much better of now love my life and the people in it and know from friends his life is still full of drama. Mine is drama free and I'm so so happy angry with myself I stayed so long I wasted time being in a bad relationship

Don't sit in the dark over him anymore. Turn all the lights on and brighten up your life. Join clubs quiz teams anything don't waste your time thinking of this person you deserve a better life go out there and show him and everyone else how happy you are with out him.

I know how your feeling. Me and my partner of 3 1/2 years split up and a few weeks after he got with someone else and may I add I'm pregnant with his child and we have a DD together. I have 0 feelings for him now and absolutely hate him but it does get better. Hope you find the happiness your deserved x

I found out my ex was cheating on me when I was 3 months pregnant with my first (planned) child. He went off with her, it was heartbreaking going through pregnancy knowing the father of my child was off having a lovely new relationship and I was fat aka pregnant and all on my own. I couldn’t pay the mortgage so had to rent my house out and move back in with my parents.
Fast forward 5 years I am married to the love of my life, the kindest most gentle man who’s my best friend (and he’s bloody gorgeous too) I’m happier than I’ve ever been and I’m glad for all the heartache because I would never have met my husband. I thought I was destined to be single forever and could never imagine trusting another man again.
We went on our first date when the baby was 8 weeks old, he’s brought him up as his own and my son calls him daddy and he has his surname too now, we also have our own baby together.
My ex was selfish, he’s still with the OW but I don’t care, she’s with someone that cheats on someone who’s pregnant - who would be ok with that?

Doesn't mean he's happy. Men are unable to be on their own. The best thing you can do is concentrate on you - over analysing & thinking about the past, won't move you forward. Karma will hit him one day.