Positive heartbreak stories

[sadladytoday]

Going no contact for this I am a long time poster. Looks like there hasn't been one of these for a while and I really need some hope!

Long story short... broke up with long term partner in September (11 years no kids)

Found out today from a mutual friend he has a new girlfriend already!!!

I'm heartbroken, feel like I meant nothing to him... he cheated on me at times during relationship.... why does he get to be happy within 2 MONTHS, and I'm left feeling lonely, like the world has finished with no hope.
I can't stand him anymore after all this and never in a million years would I want a miserable life with him but what I need is stories of happiness after all consuming "never gonna be happy again" decent men don't exist break ups please!

Thank youuu!!

It sounds like you want stories about women finding new men. But you need to find happiness without men.

I so agree with this. Pinning your life and hope on finding someone to love you is the kiss of death imo

Learn to love you (trite as that may sound) and learn not to look to someone else to prop you up

My story is similar to @Spritesobright. STBXH left me out of the blue last October after 14 years together and one DD. I fell off my perch big time but amazing friends, family, colleagues, and neighbours dragged me through. The trauma improved each of those other relationships immeasurably and without exception. Therapy and yes, time also helped me get perspective.

I dipped my toe into OLD after I spotted ex on there four months after the bomb dropped. I’m now 11 months into a lovely relationship with my first and only date (rare jackpot, I gather). Yes, it came sooner than I expected and has meant running parallel tracks of healing and building a new relationship. The fact that new DP had a similar story to tell with similar circumstances and timeline has been key. But I feel much clearer headed about what I want from a relationship now than I did when starting out with Ex. Feel able to make much healthier choices now.

Good luck.

My ex cheated on me and was abusive. It was still difficult as it was my whole life changing not just the relationship ending. I was a single parent and ex didn’t take much interest in our child. About a year later I met a lovely guy and was head over heels. We had a two year relationship then he dumped me and I found out he had been seeing someone else for all but the first 3 months.
A guy at work took me out for lunch and he was lovely until he opened his wallet to pay and there was a photo of his partner. Who’s that I said and at least he admitted it so that was the end of that!
It’s easy to lose hope when there are a lot of b@stards out there.
Learning to love yourself and be happy is definitely the key.
In saying all that I do have a happy ending. I met a really decent guy when I had given up on men and I had no expectations, in fact I was thinking well I will enjoy a fling. We’ve now been married ten years and have two children.

@Goldenchildsmum. Not sure if those were my words but yes. It’s got to be yourself.y husband left 6 months ago but I’ve rebuilt my life with family and friends. New hobbies, adventures etc. I am on internet dating and I’ve been on dates but this is a nice distraction and not my focus

My stbexh had a serious gf within 2 weeks of him old (I know very quick) talking about moving even. Fast forward the clock 2 months and I've found someone too. If upsetting but instead of moping just have fun, and you never know. It happens when it happens, I could never believe 3 months ago I could be so happy

Here's a happy, positive breakup.

An ex cheated on me, messed me around no end, and lied to me. I discovered at the very end just how much he had been lying to me, about nearly everything. Whole life was a lie.

I discovered that within weeks, he had a new girlfriend (was there a crossover, was she one of the bits on the side, who knows?) and within months of proposing to me, proposed to her, and married her.

I have nothing but fear and sympathy for that woman. There isn't a drop of me what would ever want to be in her shoes, or want to be with him. I look back and there was nothing but sadness, uncertainty and lies.

That's no way to live, is it OP?

Exactly @jane1978xx

I agree

Thanks all..."comforting" (as not good that others are suffering) to hear other people in the same boat and actually good to hear that some of you have come through the other side.

@Devereux1 nope, no way to live and sounds v similar to my experience. I know that, I don't want that, which is why I ended it... just wish I felt all Lizzo ya know!

OP, you will, you will. I know it's a cliche but time is the greatest healer.

The reason why it's so darned difficult is because you can't rush time and make it work quicker, you just have to sit back, believe and wait.

I have a light at the end of the tunnel!
I split with my DD father after 7 years of “bliss” he cheated on me with a woman across the road and inevitably ended up with her within a week of us splitting. I was heartbroken and felt like my future had been taken from me.
I stayed single for 4 years. Worked on myself and actually they ended up being the best years of my life. I had no one to answer to, no one to consider (apart from DD obviously) and ended up with the love of my life. Being heartbroken only makes you learn what you will and will no accept in your next relationship. Chin up OP he’s someone else problem now. And as for cheating EX he’s still with OW now. And he cheats on her all the time with numerous people ( which is a shame because she’s actually a really nice girl) but... what goes around comes around

@GinderellaByMidnight oh wow! Glad all turned out well for you though ❤️

@cloudbusting42 that's so interesting. I love your phrase about parallel tracks of healing and building a new relationship.
I really think there's something to having your heart crushed that can make you a better person.
That sounds crazy but I feel like I did some serious soul searching after the split and have taken everything I learned to this new relationship.
We have approached it very humbly because we both know there are no guarantees but are so grateful to share the time we have.
I'll never go back to the utter naivety, dependency and trust I had in my first serious relationship but I think that's a good thing.