Dating red flags

[Alaska10]

I have definitely experienced some of these in the past when I was more naïve and gullible, and it's important to keep a lookout for them in order to avoid what could be abusive or controlling situations, or just dating an utter belend or a player !

I'd say:
ANY form of violence whatsoever
Racism
Homophobia
Sexism and what women are 'expected to do'
Very tight with money-keeps receipts for what you owe him and makes sure things are split to the last penny
Every ex is a 'crazy psycho'
Out with mates 'getting pissed' every weekend unless an 18 year old student.
History of cheating/leaving partners for someone else
'one of the lads' very loutish and lairy
Rude towards wait staff and shop assistants
Massive mummy's boy
Overly needy- texting you again if you haven't replied as quickly as he would like, i.e. 10 minutes
You met online and they are 'leaving to go travelling soon' (unless you want a casual fling)
Pushy about sex/puts pressure on you
Aggressive when drunk
Wants to meet your kids/for you to meet his kids very early on
Proven liar
Stroppy if you go out with your friends
You feel like you're walking on eggshells
'not sure about you' after several months
'too busy' to see you for weeks

Feel free to add any others !

Mine was excessively showy-off-y and charming to waiting staff. Once he asked me if I'd noticed how much the easyjet man who checked us in liked him.

He did say once that he never ever apologised. And that seems to be true. Another red flag.

and yes on the exes sex technique. How horrible. Also horrible about her body too. Far tmi. Disrespectful and horrible. I know alot about his exes in bed. I know he's since shared the same about me. It says alot for what he actually thinks of his girlfriends.

(and yes @Sandals19 on the family too - slagging off her sisters and parents in far too much detail and again, I now know he did similar on mine about my children. I think it's fair to say that if they do that, they are not at all kind or respectful, but it's also safe to say that if anyone is disrespectful or rude or oversharing (to such a ridiculous degree) about one person, they'll do the exactly same about you. ).

I'd say that it is a red flag or at least a pink flag if they have no relationship with their family. There could be an explanation to this though.

I'll add "she was a psycho".

Ones I don't think are on this thread but that I would add are:
Getting a gut feeling about something being off. You know the " that's not quite right" feeling.

They turned out to be red flags.

The woman who is dismissed with " Oh God, her" type comment, or that time you weren't included when you should have been.

*Jekyll and Hyde - shows the 'nice' face when in pursuit or trying to hook you in, makes all the right noises, 'acts' like a decent person -

once you're hooked in or have slept with them, the mask slips, the effort of keeping up the 'nice' face is too much. They show their real selves.

They become distant, disinterested - you are left wondering where the nice, interested man went, feeling confused and wondering if you've done something wrong.

@12345kbm reading your list made me really appreciate my current partner after years of these loons x

My ex is a psycho is maybe the brightest red flag of them all.

Someone has already said but love bombing! Didn't even know what it was till I started reading about narcissists (my ex led me there haha)

All the talk and no actions. I always had 'oh I was going to get this for your birthday but (enter shit excuse here', or 'I did think about doing this for you but (enter shit excuse here)', 'I will own my 7 businesses and the bank will of course lend me the money', even though I have no collateral, credit rating, house, money, car, nothing...

Never taking responsibility for their life, its always someone else's fault

Made to feel guilt for not wanting to engage in something sexual that makes you feel uncomfortable

Oh, the best one. Having a run down of all his previous ex girlfriends and what their boobs were like. Heavy, squishy, perky etc.... Gotta laugh

I've just remembered another one;
Expecting a big song and dance when its about them, they vanish like smoke when its about you.
I had one ex walk out of my birthday dinner in a snit, then get huffy later because no one went to check on him.

Doesn't want to hear about parts of your (in my case, medical) history in case it puts them off you.

Making more of a physical effort for female friends who are their "best mate."

Trump supporter!

Oh, poor communication/sweeps important issues under the carpet.